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He probably sees the guys he wants her to date as harmless. Maybe he even picks the "not her type" guys knowing that she won't like them. The youngest son being wild actually helps explain it. He figures he's "lost" one, he's tightening his grip on the other two. Just wait until YOU have a teenaged daughter, my friend!
Just stay calm about it all, because blood is thicker than water and if you get between father and daughter, in the end it will be you that's blamed, whether you're at fault or not. But there's nothing wrong with you, you're a good guy. Just realize that it takes some people a long time to get past the stereotype of metalheads as evil heathens. Eventually he'll probably realize that you're a GOOD heathen!
You don't mention her mother; is she alive, or in the picture? If he's widowed or divorced, all the more reason he'd hang onto his "good" kids. Not saying it's right or wrong, it just IS. Hopefully you can hang until he comes around. Maybe try to talk to him at some point, if you think you can stay respectful and not ged angry. If you do, expect him to try to piss you off, he's testing to see whay kind of man is after his daughter.
As I said, someday you may have a daughter and you will understand his fears then! Hopefully the kid who wants to date your daughter will be a good kid under the exterior that scares you, too!
Just stay calm about it all, because blood is thicker than water and if you get between father and daughter, in the end it will be you that's blamed, whether you're at fault or not. But there's nothing wrong with you, you're a good guy. Just realize that it takes some people a long time to get past the stereotype of metalheads as evil heathens. Eventually he'll probably realize that you're a GOOD heathen!
You don't mention her mother; is she alive, or in the picture? If he's widowed or divorced, all the more reason he'd hang onto his "good" kids. Not saying it's right or wrong, it just IS. Hopefully you can hang until he comes around. Maybe try to talk to him at some point, if you think you can stay respectful and not ged angry. If you do, expect him to try to piss you off, he's testing to see whay kind of man is after his daughter.
As I said, someday you may have a daughter and you will understand his fears then! Hopefully the kid who wants to date your daughter will be a good kid under the exterior that scares you, too!
Originally posted by Fragle
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of course, i do see your point. but then again, why would he try to make her date some (imho random) guy without thinking about her feelings in the first place?
i mean, sure, i have my faults....as you said, metal musician, long hair, like to drink beer. on the other hand, i'm definitely not somebody to do things just for the sake of doing them. i like to think of myself as mature enough to not feel the need to impress anybody by doing stupid shit (i DO want to impress folks with my guitar playing, of course ). hell, provided that there won't be any major incidents in the course of this year i'll study law for gods sake, doesn't that at least give me SOME credibility.
let me tell you something....this guy, he has three children, 2 sons and this one daughter. the oldest son and her are TOTALLY controlled by him. i mean, think about it, when i was 17/ almost 18 (just the age of his oldest son) i went on an EUROPEAN TOUR, that's 4 weeks of heavy drinking, drug abuse (i personally didn't do that, but there were lots of guys who did), groupies...you know the drill; his son on the other hand isn't even allowed to go to a friends party. same thing goes for his daughter as you might have guessed by now.
the youngest son (15 by the end of february) on the other hand does everything...drinking, smoking (pot as well as normal stuff), even theft and burglary! think about that....
i mean, sure, i have my faults....as you said, metal musician, long hair, like to drink beer. on the other hand, i'm definitely not somebody to do things just for the sake of doing them. i like to think of myself as mature enough to not feel the need to impress anybody by doing stupid shit (i DO want to impress folks with my guitar playing, of course
). hell, provided that there won't be any major incidents in the course of this year i'll study law for gods sake, doesn't that at least give me SOME credibility.let me tell you something....this guy, he has three children, 2 sons and this one daughter. the oldest son and her are TOTALLY controlled by him. i mean, think about it, when i was 17/ almost 18 (just the age of his oldest son) i went on an EUROPEAN TOUR, that's 4 weeks of heavy drinking, drug abuse (i personally didn't do that, but there were lots of guys who did), groupies...you know the drill; his son on the other hand isn't even allowed to go to a friends party. same thing goes for his daughter as you might have guessed by now.
the youngest son (15 by the end of february) on the other hand does everything...drinking, smoking (pot as well as normal stuff), even theft and burglary! think about that....
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