Stop a divorce?

[Tekky]

Re: Stop a divorce?

As they say, if you love something set it free... if it doesn't come back, hunt it down and kill it.

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Just kidding, again, I wish you the best.

[ejpii]

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As they say, if you love something set it free... if it doesn't come back, hunt it down and kill it.

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Just kidding, again, I wish you the best.

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Thanks for reminding me , that is the other sying I go by. [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img]

EJ

[Tetsuo]

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The best thing you can do for both of you is to allow her to go if that is truly what she wants to do. If you were to hang on and attempt to force her to stay, you turn what seems to be an amicable parting into a bitter test of wills. While you do everything in your power to make her want to stay, she'll do everything in her power to make you hate her and let her go.

Good that she is "reconsidering" give her the space to make that decision and all will work out for the best.

I wish you the best...

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I have been careful about that. I am pretty resanonable and mellow and I am not forcing anything. I do beleive that I am thinking a little more clearly and willing to work on things more but that is that and that is what there is no control over.

[Tekky]

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You have to go by the serenity prayer...

"God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, courage to change the things we can, and wisdom to know the difference."

[Drake S.]

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Tetsuo I'm with Tekky on this one man I'm divorced now for a while we seperated, & fought like we were at war. I loved her & she didn't know anymore, I presured her all the time about how much I missed her & loved her. We have only been able to talk about things recently we seperated like almost 5 years ago & got divorced about 2 years ago now. We have a son so we need to talk to one another.
Right now I'm just glad we have been able to build a friendship. Don't make my mistake give her space & talk to her when she has something on her mind & discuss it . Put it this way she under preasure right now with a lot on her mind, so are you, one wrong spark & you both can explode.
Best of luck , I'm also with bill on this one maybe counciling might help if you both want to go that route.

[Tetsuo]

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Thanks everyone. I just need a place to vent. Just need to hear some feedback sometimes I really appreciate it!!

[horns666]

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You can't force or talk anyone into staying a relationship that they no longer want. The more you try the deeper it drives the stake in it..then it starts lookin pathetic the more you persue it..

If you notice a "change" it's possible some dude blew some smoke up her ass and she may be thinking about it or already acted on it..there is an outside influence it seems..

a friend of mine just went thru this crap ...he's a metal rocker type and she fell for some mr. Wallstreet fag dude . Well they get divorced and she moves in with Wallstreet fag...he uses her like a plastic fukk doll for two weeks then kicks her to the curb...now she regrets getting a divorce and calls him everyweek saying she fukked up!!

If this is not the case and there may be another problem such as family thing or money thing or whatever ...or your always leaving the toilet seat up and she's willing to "reconsider" ..I recommend counseling ...at least once !

Like I said you guys need a nuetral party to referee while one party speaks the other one listens ...plus for some damn reason women seem to open up to a unbiased person present...gives them a chance to vent I guess.

While being a cop and going to about 1000 domestic Violence assignments ...One thing I noticed is that a stifled wife will always vent and spill all the beans when I was there ...and the guys were always amazed that all of a sudden they have so much to say and or complain about when they didn't tell them what's bothering them for years....

that happends a lot!

at least there is no children involved ...and since you guys work and live together there is little or no breathing room for either of you ...maybe that's the problem .. I love my wife ...but I love my own time as well ...I need my breathing room ...for what I like to do ...my music , my vette , my PP , my time...for whatever.

They need their space too for stuff like masturbating in the bubble bath , going cloathes shopping , or out to dinner with her girl friends once in a while...

Good Luck bro..keep us posted.

[Drake S.]

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I don't care what anybody else says or thinks but Bill rulz! [img]/images/graemlins/headbang.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/notworthy.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/headbang.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/toast.gif[/img]

[horns666]

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Well I been married for 17 years and we are still pretty happy ...even though I'm a cynical mean SOB ...I try and keep it funny and amusing for the family sake...

I love acting like a ridiculous tool at home ...they love laughing at me ...and I love it too..

you couldn't imagine what I do for them ...I'm like the court jester at my house... [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img]

[SEEGERMANY]

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If you own guitars, give them to a buddy for safe keeping until your marriage problems are worked out. Replacing women is easy, replacing guitars is not. [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img]

[Tetsuo]

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Bill lots of good things said. There are a lot of underlying things in the marriage we are pretty open but there are certain things that we have

Germandeth... Naw my guitars are safe worry not your head...

[pro-fusion]

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Marriage is tough, man.