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[dinkyjacksonman]

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Thank you again.
I just came back from the hospital(12 at night) and my wife will be sleeping there tonight.
I could have stayed there with her but I had to take my daughter home and we will go back in the morning.

Chris,my wife really wanted the second because she was also the only child and she always wanted to have a sister or a brother.
We really wanted to have a brother or a sister for our daughter.

After the operation which she had 2 hours ago,my wife couldn't stop crying and kept telling me how sorry she was... it wasn't her fault at all and I kept telling her it was an accident...

[wulfe13]

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Sorry to hear this bro! I do believe it happens for a reason... It will make you and your wife stronger!
God bless!

[mariner99]

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Stay close to each other, comfort each other and - above all - understand and reassure each other that this is no one's fault.
My condolemces my friend, and my thoughts are with you.

[Jack The Riffer]

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Sorry to hear it bro. Stay strong and carry on. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[guitar geek]

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second everybodies being sorry. must be hell to loose your own blood, even if it hasn't been born yet. my prayers will be with you and your wife to ask for strength to get you through these days.

Harrald

[lerxstcat]

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You and your wife have my condolences, Toru.
You have to comfort each other at this time, yet realize that you will both be angry in your pain. Don't take this out on each other.
I think Brian's post is very wise; if the baby had been born but with a fatal problem, how much worse watching your child suffer and then pass on? I also agree about naming the baby.
I personally believe its soul is in Heaven and naming him or her will help you in yeas to come. My sister had 4 miscarriages for whom she did this and it's a great comfort to her.
She has only one child who lived, and that child just gave her a granddaughter this April.

You should also find out if there are any health issues for your wife in having children. In learning this you can also learn how to counteract these risks, or in the worst case, if she should not try to become pregnant aain. I know you want more children, but it would not be worth her life to try. Unfortunately it would be natural for her as a mother to feel it WOULD be worth that risk, so I believe you need to talk to her ob/gyn about this yourself.

Cherish your wife and the child you already have, take a time to mourn the baby, and see then what position you are in. I will pray for you and your family.

Deepest Regards,

Rich

[BLOOD SPLATTER]

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So sorry to hear this Toru.....thoughts & prayers for you & your family!!

[horns666]

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"Things happen for a reason" ...well I'm not much of a believer in that philosophy BUT..

This happened to good friends of mine ...they lost three ...three miscarries in over two years...

they were getting older and desperately wanted a child ...they were considering adoption when she got pregnant again...

she had a beautiful baby boy , he's two now....

hang in there and be there for each other ...that's all you can do.

[eaeolian]

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Having recently become a father for the second time myself, I can somewhat imagine what you must feel, Toru. My sincere condolences for you and your family, from me and mine.

[Shawn Lutz]

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I'm sorry to hear that Toru you and your wife and your daughter have my condolences.

[GodOfRhythm]

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That's terrible news.
My support and condolences goes out to you and your family, and I wish you strength.

[donf]

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Sorry and my condolences to your wife and you.

[fett]

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There is probably no greater dissappointment anyone could feel than what has happened here. My heart goes out to your wife, as she must deal with this on so many levels. You have shown us what a good and strong person you are. Now, you are in the shadow of this dark place in your lives. The true measure of a person and a family is how they fare on the journey back to the sunshine. I sincerely hope your journey back will be short and safe. I have a feeling it will.

[StukaJU87]

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[ QUOTE ]
There is probably no greater dissappointment anyone could feel than what has happened here. My heart goes out to your wife, as she must deal with this on so many levels. You have shown us what a good and strong person you are. Now, you are in the shadow of this dark place in your lives. The true measure of a person and a family is how they fare on the journey back to the sunshine. I sincerely hope your journey back will be short and safe. I have a feeling it will.

[/ QUOTE ] Well said Fett. God bless.

[Chuckracer]

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Toru, I'm finally back online...I'm so sorry to hear this news. This is very sobering indeed. I know how much this meant to you both, and I know what great parents you both are and how much you love your daughter. This had to have hit hard.
I'm so sorry and am sending you both all the strength I can. These things happen for a reason, and we may not understand God's workings, but good WILL come out of this. Have faith, find strength in each other. You have a lot of online friends pulling for you two...sending you strength and good wishes...