OK, now a sad news to tell....I need your help.

[shreddermon]

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My deepest condolences to you both. Stay strong for each other.

[dinkyjacksonman]

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Thank you so much everyone.
I just came back from the hospital picking up my wife where she stayed last night after the operation.
My wife will be at home to relax.
She still cries and it is much harder than I expected.

This is not the first time we lost the baby.
We lost our very first about 4years ago with only 2-3weeks of pregnancy then our first daughter was born 2years ago.
Our daughter is very healthy and with no problem.
Then this hit us again.
It was only 1month of pregnancy.
My wife has been taking some exams over the years and it seems she is fine.
So that is why we just don't believe why this happened to us.
Things happen but we did not want this to happen.
We are trying to believe thsi happened for a reason but there should not be a reason to lose a child...

My wife's mother will come over and hope things will start to get better littel by little..

Again, thank you so much for your support and my wife reads all the messages posted here.
She would like to say thank you so much as well.

[charvelguy]

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Please accept my condolences to you both.

[Newc]

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God Bless y'all, Toru. I know that some people would try to lay blame on God for things like this (the whole "baby-killing" thing mostly), but these things are not punishment, and God doesn't get any laughs out of this type of thing.
Both of you should try reaching out to God with your hearts. Don't go bouncing off to an organized business with a giant cross hanging on the front - I mean you and your wife and God in your own house, laying your hearts out to him. He understands anger, pain, confusion, and sadness. He gave us those emotions when He made us all in His image. We're not "dumb animals" to God.
With God there's no obligation. You can cancel your subscription at any time, and come back when you feel like it without being pointed at or whispered about or criticized.

Though He may not carve out His answers on your living room wall with a stream of lightning, He'll show you why it happened eventually, and you'll understand the reason.

Newc

[Drake S.]

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Hey I just wanted to say I've been in you & your wifes shoes before but at a really young age. There is no majic spell or flash of light that will just take this away, just be there for each other,& unfortunately it just wasn't meant to be this time. My deepest sympathies to you & your wife, stay strong for each other thats what is important right now Let her know nobody did anything wrong. If you guys decide to try again in the future I wish you the best & healthy & happiest of luck.You guys can always find stregth in the Love you both share for each other.

[dinkyjacksonman]

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Thank you Matt and Drake.
Things are getting so much better.
This time sucks for my family.
We have been busy since the trip we made over the weekend,my daughter got a little cold and I am coughing.

My wife's mother is arriving at the airport that I will have to go and pick her up later today.
She cut her vacation shorter and coming back today.
Probably later this evening, we will go to a church.
My wife and her mother do very often.
It does help to believe in something that gives us a power and strength to carry on.
Also the words I am getting from you guys here ,PMs, and E-mails are the biggest support of all.
We really do appreciate and these words have been helping us a lot to go through the pain we have.

Toru

[AlexL]

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Toru:

I am sorry for this loss you and your family have suffered. I do not know what to say; I am a father as well, and can not imagine what you must be feeling. My comments are this:

1) Philosphically, things happen for a reason. And, medically speaking, miscarriges happen for a reason. This is of little comfort at a time like this, but it is the truth.

2) My heart is breaking for you and your family, and as a father, this chokes me up quite badly. My prayers go out to you.

3) Give your child an extra tight hug tonight; children are our greatest "posessions" and I was relieved to hear that you and your wife have succesfully given birth to a child. This has to help you through this, at least a little.

4) Thank you for finding the courage to share this with all of us. I am proud to be part of a community that can offer support on personal issues as well.


God bless,

- Eric

[horns666]

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Things will heal with time...just be there for each other..

nothing else matters ...nothing!

tragedies like this are random and not prejudice of whom they strike ..

Nobody here is exempt from this...no matter what faith , race , or who you are..

Life is a series of tests...and these are the things that make people become wiser , stronger ...or weaker as a person for that matter.

But you have much love in your life to help you overcome.

Bill