would you spill the beans...

[mwm70]

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Put yourself in the shoes of the guy that is getting screwed around on. If I was (not saying he is) completely oblivious to the situation I would want, even though I probably would not like it, to hear that the two bit ho I married was crushing the donkey she worked for. This way I could begin the process of moving on past this relationship that is obviously over.

[Shawn Lutz]

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I agree that its not any of your business. Keep your nose out of it. Who knows, maybe her husband is out playing the field too, maybe they have an open relationship and if they didn't there are 4 kids lives at stake here. Their 4 children are more important that the guy who's wifes slammin her boss.

On the other hand if the guy was one of your closest friends it would be a very hard decision to make, but hardly knowing them...no way.

[taxistationary]

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I wouldn't if you werent good freinds with the couple. I would though, if you knew them better. I had almost the same situation with a very good friend of mine.

[Newc]

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Hold onto the info. If/when one of them files for divorce, feel free to step up and speak. If they're both doing it to each other, then it's their problem. However, say the woman comes up and asks for a divorce with alimony and child support, and they guy's just left wondering "WTF!?", then I'd let the guy know, and let him use that in court against her to get the kids away from her.
Take her kids so she can't teach them the same ways.

But for now, I'd keep it to myself, especially if you have no proof.

Newc

[vitovanhalen]

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point taken - I do like the brilliant blackmail/funding custom shop purchases. Seriously, I wouldn't have the grapes to influence somebody's life in taking a drastic turn. Thanks for all the input -

[skidd]

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It's none of your business.

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Well said.

[Cleveland Metal]

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YEah, I guess best to stay out of it.

But, I can only think that if I was the guy who was being cheated on, I'd wanna know my woman was cheating. Years later after years of her doing that, to find out she is and that people even knew and didn't tell, would be a bummer.

My ex was druggie (coke) at the end, and I found out people knew a lot more than I did and weren't telling me about it. They are all certainly on the rarely call list and I would have started the closure a LOT earlier on that chapter of my life than I did. And I could have also foregone the time I spent trying to fix the symptoms of the relationship and stopped trying make it work which was absolute hell and cost me around 30 grand. I wasted several years of my life because I didn't know a lot of stuff that others did. I really wish they would have told me sooner.

But, I guess they thought it best to stay out of it. Why get involved I guess. Apathy I sorta felt. But, it is likely the better thing for them to stay out. For me, it wasn't and I wasted a lot of my life and suffered a lot..

[mwm70]

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For me, it wasn't and I wasted a lot of my life and suffered a lot..

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That is the quandry.

[Jack The Riffer]

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Blackmail the wife and bang her in the ass. [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

[Top Jimmy B]

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Yep, that's the answer.

[StukaJU87]

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I look at it like this. If the guy was your best friend it would be better to tell him. If he found out later that you knew and didn't say anything, he'd be pissed. No more friendship. That said, it appears that this guy is just an aquaintance, and as such, it is none of your business.

[vitovanhalen]

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Blackmail the wife and bang her in the ass.

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this chick has $5000 dow cornings (which her husband bought for her). Not my bag, but that's an entirely different sort of debate.

[dinkyjacksonman]

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I would say let him(her husband) find out.
I have seen similar stuff in my life where my friend's wife was cheating with another guy.
She had a 6-7years old girl with ex husband and a twin(3years old) with my friend. [img]/images/graemlins/eek.gif[/img]
There are some people who never have enough.
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[Lev]

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I would want to find out right away if this was going on in my life... but she'll be fired eventually anyway, then when she becomes the neighborhood slut sleeping with everyone for a job the husband will find out. Cheating on your spouse, especially when you have kids, is almost like murder in my book, it fuks up your whole life. I'd leave it alone but on the other hand I'd want to know if I was the guy, tough call. You'll be the guy that sets things straight but also the guy that could cause 4 children to lose their mother... its retarded how many people she's hurting and putting in a bad situation because of how horny, irresponsible, and disloyal she is. This explains why my views on cheating are so harsh.

[horns666]

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I like the blackmail thing...now that is Satanic!

well ...If your not close to them or never will be ...the hell with 'em

or if you feel the need to advise him because you think he's a good man and needs to know...then go for it ....but don'r expect him to believe you or not get angry ...or become your friend ...or even appreciate the fact that you did tell him...because that won't happen.

Now if you don't like this woman ...maybe you think she's a piece of crap ....or maybe you may think they both suck ass...then that's another great reason to add some much needed drama to their miserable lives..then you get some satisfaction of giving them that drama on a silver platter...that's also Satanic.

This also works great to avoid ever becoming "friends" with these people.

You have some awesome damaging knowledge my friend ...use it wisely or don't use it at all.