a life/college/parents kind of question

[No Use]

i dunno how many of you guys/girls will read this but, i'm trying to get some feedback...

basically, when you were in high school, did you have goals in life? like, did you want to be a rock star, or actor or whatever? and were your parents in the way, trying to dictate your life for you, even though you had your own plans? what did you do, if that was the case? (i'm trying to find some inspiring stories of how you disregarded the naysayers and did what you needed to do, for you own life [img]/images/graemlins/headbang.gif[/img])

thanks very much.

[wulfe13]

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Well there were lots of things I wanted to do, but unfortunately I partied way too much... Honestly, now I wish I had listened to them... Damn I hate admitting that! But they were trying to guide me the right way.... Live and learn I guess...

[Guest]

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I agree with Wulfe, 100%... I've lived a pretty hard life up to about 6 years ago, but I've been on my own since I was 16 and I regret a lot of things. Especially when it comes to my parents and what I did with my own life, for the most part.

I wouldn't discount what knowledge they have to offer.

Pat

[442w30]

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My brothers friend always told people he'd be an actor. He left home under objections from his parents and ended up in New York. He acted some, became very flamboyant and is extremely happy. His family disowned him for 10 years, but in the end, everyone is glad he followed his dream. No, he's not famous, but no regrets either.

Was that inspiring enough [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

[No Use]

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that was a nice story 442w30. i wouldn;t discount the information from my parents, if they didn't try ti kill the expectations and hopes i had for myself. sure i sound like a naive stupid kid. i'm sure one day i'll come to terms with it. but for once, i'd actually like to choose the things i would like to do. if they werent so reputation and image driven, maybe i would try to learn what honesty and good information comes from them.

[LesPaulCustom]

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I hate to admit it, but I pretty much regret everything I did from the time I was 13 til i was...ummmm...28. I didnt listen to ANYTHING anybody had to say, and I was your typical know-it-all little bitch....what did it get me??? An addict for a husband, living on welfare for a few years with 2 kids....not pretty...in my head I had all these dreams of what I was gonna be, where I was gonna go, and what I was gonna do....did any of the ideas I have happen?? NO!!! Take my advice and take all the criticism to heart....theyve been there and done that....

Mrs LPC

[ABSOLUT CHARVEL]

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Listen to Rod Stewarts "Every Picture Tells a Story". Great advice in that song. A Slant Eyed Lady would be a bonus!
Whatever you do, get a Degree!!!! It will open doors down the road.

[guitarsjb]

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I hate to admit it, but I pretty much regret everything I did from the time I was 13 til i was...ummmm...28. I didnt listen to ANYTHING anybody had to say, and I was your typical know-it-all little bitch....what did it get me???
Amen Mrs. LPC...I agree 100%. I'm 37 now, and finally got my head screwed on MOSTLY straight...I hope.

[No Use]

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i guess what i'm getting at is, i'm not just the typical kid trying to get out to smoke crack or whatever.

i have dreams for myself, and a plan and a way to do it. Its jus the toughest getting this idea to two hardass people, who had my life written out since i was born.
having my own goals and ambitions in this house is the tough thing about it.

[No Use]

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its not even a bad thing about it! i want to go to school. I Want to get a double major in Business Management/theatre, with a minor in music performance. its not i'm out to go and party. i just want to acheive my dreams, you know?

[MetalGrasshopper]

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Let them know its your life dude. They can contribute to certain aspects of it, but in the end the burden of making it rests on you. Just keep in mind that time waits for no one, but hard work will prevail.

[No Use]

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i hear you man. i'm ready for any hardship that will come from my love for doing what i love to do, but not the hardship to get through to them. its always been a battle, and i'm so ridicuously frustrated with it. especially with college and everything coming up...

[Ace]

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When I was a small child, I was always told that "anything is possible if you put your mind to it". Call me stupid, but I believed it.

In my 26 short years on this Earth, I have achieved much more than most people will in their entire lifetime. And I am just getting started. You have but one life to live my friend. Make it yours. As long as your goals are worthwile(not I want to be a crackhead, leave me alone), then forget anyone who tells you that you can't do it, or that you're not good enough. What would the world be like if Ben Franlikn had believed his parents when they told him he should STFU and be a blacksmith? Or is Sir Edmund Hillary had listened to the jerks at the bar who said "Everest, no one will ever climb it!!"

You have but one life to live on this great Earth. Make it yours. Conquer your goals, make them your memories. I have done waht many people doubted I could do many times in my life. Just because you follow your dreams, people will be more than happy to tell you about their faliures. I would rather have died trying than lived in defeat. There is a quote that is one of my favorites, I can't remeber it for the life of me, but to paraphrase it "Don't expect much encouragement for your dreams from those who failed in theirs". Or something like that. It's YOUR life, F*CK the naysayers!!!!

[YetAnotherOne]

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My goals in life when I was in high school were: a) to find, on a regular basis, someone who was old enough to buy me beer, b) to get laid as often as possible, c) to smoke weed every weekend, and d) to avoid getting arrested. I'm happy to report that I was generally successful on all fronts.

My dad has a terminal case of negativity. According to him nothing I've ever attempted had any chance of working out. E.g., he said I'd never get in to a good college (I did), said engineering was probably going to be too tough (it wasn't), said I'd never get into grad school (I did), didn't think I'd finish my MS (I did), didn't think I'd ever find a decent job in a decent company (Fortune 50, most visible project in the company while I was there), didn't think I'd be successful there (left after 3 years, was promoted ahead of folks who'd been there 3x as long), didn't think I'd get into a good law school (no problem when you're sporting a half-dozen sparkling letters of recommendation from the university's largest corporate donor), didn't think I'd make it through law school (no problem), didn't think I'd find a decent gig in that profession (made it into a big snobby west coast firm), thought I'd get ripped off when I started a business on an informal basis with some really bright folks (I didn't), thought it'd fail (it hasn't), lately he's told me that I'd never make it in his business and it looks like I'll have the opportunity to buy one about the size of his, doing the same thing his does, that's literally right across the road from him. Before I'm finished I'll probably buy dad out. We shall see.

Point being that it's your life but they're your parents. Smile and nod when they're giving you advice but live your life the way you want to and pursue your own goals even if you must do so quietly to maintain the peace at home. Don't let them stop / hassle / discourage you in any way but don't be confrontational about it either as the angst you'll generate won't do you (or your parents) any good. They don't have to approve and in the end they can't stop you so rest easy in the knowledge that in the end it'll be your own abilities, efforts, and desires that will determine your future.

[Ace]

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YetAnotherOne, you just made my "Hero" list!!!