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Re: me and my new ex....
I Dont know how you feel exactly, but I have recently got out of a sh*tty situation with a girl who I thought was a close friend and things developed into something more between us. But it ended with her lying to me, exploiting my generosity, being manipulative, going after my best mate, trying to take him home, and being a general dirty sl*t. Then coming crying to me asking if we could still be friends as she wanted me in her life, and then doing the exact same thing, and keeps ringing my best mate to try and meet up with him. I really felt something towards her and thought it was different.
That was about 8 weeks ago, and I felt like there was no future without her, and I spent a lot of time wallowing (it also didnt help that we went to the same bars, so Id keep seeing her with her current guy of the week and she'd be all smiling and waving like nothing had happened). But, partly cos Ive avoided her since then, and Ive come home for Christmas, things are getting better. When I do see her in bars or in University seminars, I dont feel upset, I dont feel angry either, I just see her as a hot girl now. But theres not that much lust there either.
Im not wanting sympathy, in fact, I dont really care what you guys have to add to my situation, its not my thread.
I just wanted to say to Burn that things get better, although they dont seem like they will. You need friends around you, and if you're anything like me, which you seem to be, try doing non-alcohol based things, Ive started going rock climbing more, and instead of going to a bar and then to a nightclub, Id go to the cinema and to a mates house. It sounds really stale and boring, but being in the same places that remind you of this lass or anything like that arent good (the grammar in that sentence is awful). Even looking at hot girls and just general perving wasnt good for me, cos itd get me down, cos I compared every girl to her.
Take it or leave it, Im not professing to be an expert here, but my advice is, take things day by day, and try and keep it in your mind that things will get better.
Chin up
James
I Dont know how you feel exactly, but I have recently got out of a sh*tty situation with a girl who I thought was a close friend and things developed into something more between us. But it ended with her lying to me, exploiting my generosity, being manipulative, going after my best mate, trying to take him home, and being a general dirty sl*t. Then coming crying to me asking if we could still be friends as she wanted me in her life, and then doing the exact same thing, and keeps ringing my best mate to try and meet up with him. I really felt something towards her and thought it was different.
That was about 8 weeks ago, and I felt like there was no future without her, and I spent a lot of time wallowing (it also didnt help that we went to the same bars, so Id keep seeing her with her current guy of the week and she'd be all smiling and waving like nothing had happened). But, partly cos Ive avoided her since then, and Ive come home for Christmas, things are getting better. When I do see her in bars or in University seminars, I dont feel upset, I dont feel angry either, I just see her as a hot girl now. But theres not that much lust there either.
Im not wanting sympathy, in fact, I dont really care what you guys have to add to my situation, its not my thread.
I just wanted to say to Burn that things get better, although they dont seem like they will. You need friends around you, and if you're anything like me, which you seem to be, try doing non-alcohol based things, Ive started going rock climbing more, and instead of going to a bar and then to a nightclub, Id go to the cinema and to a mates house. It sounds really stale and boring, but being in the same places that remind you of this lass or anything like that arent good (the grammar in that sentence is awful). Even looking at hot girls and just general perving wasnt good for me, cos itd get me down, cos I compared every girl to her.
Take it or leave it, Im not professing to be an expert here, but my advice is, take things day by day, and try and keep it in your mind that things will get better.
Chin up
James
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