I just bought a shiny ring...

[Shawn Lutz]

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Forget about all the romantic, fairy, cutesy wootsey stuff. Take the ring, wrap it in a pre-nup and stuff it down you underwear and tell her you have a present in your pants for her.

Seriously just be yourself and just improvise and don't think about all the stupid shit like people putting the ring in oyster on a scuba dive or popping the question on a jumbotron at a ball game, I think that shit is so stupid. There are no original ways to ask anymore. I remember when I popped the question to my wife, I was so nervous (why I dunno we lived together for 5years) I was gonna pop the question at a nice upscale restaurant but waited until we were sipping Champagne downtown Houston by a fountain and big-ass Christmas tree. It was Christmas Eve and we were waiting for midnight to come, what was weird was I had taken the metal thingamabob off the Champagne bottle and had it sitting there and when the bell tolled the top popped off all by itself [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img] that was my que to ask.

[Mrs Tekky]

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Congrats! Don't stress and plan how you are going to do it. Sometimes the best proposals are the ones that just happen. Keeping the ring with you is a good idea cause you just never know. Just be honest and sincere. Marriage can be a very wonderful part of your life, just be sure it's waht you both truly want.

Lots of luck!

[Deneb]

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Since no one else said it, I'll say it.

Marriage is like putting your tally waker in a meat grinder.

If your relationship is rocky, marriage won't save it. Make sure popping the question is what you want to do. Make sure that you can see yourself living the rest of your life together.

Marriage is hard, and it takes TWO people to make it work, not just you.

That's the reason I won't marry my girlfriend, because our relationship has problems sometimes, and I know marrying someone doesn't make things better.

Oh, and if you're not getting sex now, in marriage, you get it like 10X less they tell me. I work in a place with like a bazillion people, and I hear shit from some of the maintenence crew like "Sometimes, you would rather sit back and drink a beer and work on the car rather than bang the wife".

Oh and finally, congrats!

[Thor Von Clemson]

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I will quote Bruce Dickenson
"Run for the hills, run for your life"



[/ QUOTE ] LMAO

Seriously though, the way we both feel is we are both commited to doing whatever we have to do to make it work, be it painful, stressful, uncomfortable, or whatever. I know there will be times when things are difficult and I will not want to be around her (there are times now when she drives me nuts. I don't call her Princess Joy for nothing) but those are just things we will have to work through. Basically, we feel we have reached a point were we are ready to start off on our own. We are ready to run the race as one person instead of two people. She told me last night we could name our first boy Jackson....

[pro-fusion]

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If she really loved you she'd let you name him "Jackson/Charvel"... [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

Seriously, marriage is a cool thing, IF you marry the right person, and you do it for the right reasons. I've been married for 6 years, and I'm still glad I married Mrs. Pro-fusion. But don't ask her just because you love her, or because the sex is good. Those are not reasons to marry someone.

Think about this--every little flaw and every little irritating thing she does would be with you for the rest of your life. And vice versa for her. Also, how well do you two deal with conflict? Because every single married couple in the world has conflict occasionally. Does she truly respect and value your opinions? Do you respect and value hers? Lots of questions...

I just sorta knew after a month or two that I would marry my wife--we both have quirky personalities, but they are quirky in a compatible way, so it was meant to be.

[Flametop]

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"Another one bites the dust" [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img] I can't give any usefull advice since I'm too busy screwing up my second marriage. Just be as sure as you can and think it through with the big head and not the little one.

[Thor Von Clemson]

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I use the term love in a very general sense. It is made up of things like compatiblity, mutual respect, ability to compromise without sacrificing who you are, etc. Seems to me like marriage is what you make of it. Like Mrs Tekky said, marriage can be a wonderful part of your life. There are times when I will get irritated with her, and she with me. There are times when we will be down and out and stressed out about things. If we are both commited to making this work, it will.

[shreddermon]

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First off, ask your self if she's "really" the one. Be honest with yourself, now! Marriage is intended to be for life, so plan for it that way. Otherwise, you're screwed, and will eventually be out a lot of money and in a lot of pain.

Don't get me wrong. Marriage is great and I love my wife very much. I consider myself very lucky to have her. Just think it through thoroughly and in advance. Then...

Pick the right place & time to do it. Not anything obvious or too planned. Don't do it in a restaurant! And not with freinds or family around - just the two of you. Like someplace that might've been special to her, a part of your shared history, or even funny. ...Like where you first met, or something like that.

Congrats and good luck. [img]/images/graemlins/toast.gif[/img]

[Tekky]

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To be honest with everyone, I can't wait to be married.

I'm positive I've found the right one. It took a while to find her, and when I did, we were both busy with 'other commitments' so we stayed friends, but I'm glad we took the relationship to "another level".

She is my best friend.

OK, gotta go, need some testosterone... gonna find a hockey thread or something. [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

[iced_earth]

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And I thought this was another Budman pickup ring thread...

Anyways, congrats! I hope your marriage goes as well as my first year has. I couldn't imagine spending my life with anyone else.

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-Mike

[Soloist1]

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The only thing marriage changed for me was getting fukked on taxes. Congrats dude.

[petedz]

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I'm seven years in, and it's rare that a day goes by without me thinking, "damn, I'm lucky". My wife rules!

Last guitar purchase went like this:
"Honey, I'm about to do something I probably shouldn't."
"You're buying another guitar, aren't you?"
"Yeah, mad?"
"Will it make you happy?"
"Yes."
"Well, then you should do it."

Having said that, take a few years before you have kids. Once the rugrats show up, the party is over.

[Emthrax]

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Oh, and if you're not getting sex now, in marriage, you get it like 10X less they tell me. I work in a place with like a bazillion people, and I hear shit from some of the maintenence crew like "Sometimes, you would rather sit back and drink a beer and work on the car rather than bang the wife".

Oh and finally, congrats!

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Ummm.... damn. Honestly I can't even imagine that, sucks for THEM!! Lemme just say that this is not totally true, it is completely possible to have a mind blowing sexual relationship with your spouse. This I know.

You're right though, Deneb, it does take two to make a marriage work. So don't expect your wifey to be doing all the cooking and cleaning if you want to get to the banging!
It's true! [img]/images/graemlins/headbang.gif[/img]

Emmy

[Thor Von Clemson]

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Ya.. as far as the sex decreasing ten fold.... well the thing about that is neither of us have ever done it, making it statistically impossible for it to decrease. That is one thing I am looking forward to very much. As far as cooking and cleaning go, I think I am actually more clean than she is and when she cooks, I ask her if she needs any help. We all know I have no cooking skills despite years of watching iron chef, but I always ask her if she needs help... Since I can't cook that is all I can do I guess.

[Emthrax]

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Cool! Lucky girl... you get to do the laundry then. [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]