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[thetroy]

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Oh also for reference, I'm about as far from "normal" as one can get. Still a virgin after a year-long relationship so the attitudes of some of these guys here are the exact opposite of mine. Not saying it's right or wrong, that's just the way I choose to live so I thought I'd offer my different viewpoint and experience.

[YetAnotherOne]

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There is the whole classic psychological gender battle going on here. Whether you consciously know it or not, by calling her frequently, she consciously or unconsciously perceives your actions as needy, wussy, and insecure, and will push you away. She will know that she can do better than a "whiny little wimp" like yourself.

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+1. Repeat after me, "Don't let the door hit you on the ass on your way out." Don't call. Be too busy to chat when she calls. Be no more than brief & polite if she emails. Always have an excuse as to why you're unable to do "friend" things. She'll be crawling back to you in no time and if she doesn't you'll have convinced yourself that it's really no big loss (which it isn't no matter how it seems right now).

[Jason1212]

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You're young so do as all have said and let this be a life experience. That and there is no way to look cool when begging for a girl to comeback.

[Shawn Lutz]

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why on earth would anyone want someone to crawl back to you if she was the one who didn't want to be you in the first place? You can't force people to love you or that maybe they'll change their minds. Forget her and move on.

[sully]

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why on earth would anyone want someone to crawl back to you if she was the one who didn't want to be you in the first place?

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[taxistationary]

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Well thank you guys so much. I just got back from a nice drive in my Jeep, getting to know an old friend again...myself. She called before and I kinda blew her off in a nice way. I don't feel nearly as bad, thanks to you...my friends! Thanks again for the help.

[Newc]

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If she chose anything else over you, forget her, because she has not put you first in life as you say you've put her first in yours.
Obviously she doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her, so stop wasting your valuable time on her.
I don't recommend you rush out and stick your dick in anything that moves - mostly because you don't know who's clean and who's not, but also because sex without love is simply exerting entirely too much effort to achieve the same thing you can achieve through masturbation - busting a nut. If all you want is to shoot a load, shoot one off without feeling obligated to someone for it.

If/when she tries to come back, it'll probably be on a rebound from someone who dumped her or that she dumped, and you don't want to be her "safety net", because she'll always use you like that, and then expect you to be her dog.

Piss on her. Let her go and close the door on her.

[discordant]

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Piss on her. Let her go and close the door on her.

[/ QUOTE ] i think i heard dr. phil give the same advice a few days back

[atomic charvel guy]

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southern caleuphoria is the place you wanna be.

[shreddermon]

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Let her go. Be friendly, but not close friends. That'll help you get over it as quickly as you can. I know that's much easier said than done. Espcially at your age. Believe me, I remember how hard it was. But I wish someone gave me this very advice when I was that guy, back then.

And, yeah, go have a good time and try to hook up with someone else ASAP. You'll be amazed how quickly nailing a new body will make you get over your feelings. Gives a whole new perspective. Especially at your age. [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

[atomic charvel guy]

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yeah, listen to shreddermon , you don't want to end up being that emotional tampon for her for those 5 days or so. my apologies to the cool women on this board.

[sworn_enemy]

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If she chose anything else over you, forget her, because she has not put you first in life as you say you've put her first in yours.
Obviously she doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her, so stop wasting your valuable time on her.
I don't recommend you rush out and stick your dick in anything that moves - mostly because you don't know who's clean and who's not, but also because sex without love is simply exerting entirely too much effort to achieve the same thing you can achieve through masturbation - busting a nut. If all you want is to shoot a load, shoot one off without feeling obligated to someone for it.

If/when she tries to come back, it'll probably be on a rebound from someone who dumped her or that she dumped, and you don't want to be her "safety net", because she'll always use you like that, and then expect you to be her dog.

Piss on her. Let her go and close the door on her.

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More great advice. Listen to these guys...wise they are.(in my best yoda voice)

[nor]

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Her single friends are watching.

[dg]

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Lots of great advice in this thread, but I agree w/ Tommy that I wouldn't burn the letters. I'm about the same age as him & I guess sometimes we oldtimers can kind of look back & enjoy the good memories without feeling the sting of the pain that came with the breakups. I had quite a few bad ones along the way as both the dumpee & the dumper (worse, in a lot of ways) & I can honestly say that I don't hold any ill will toward any of them now. They were all great girls & we had great times. I hope they are all at least as happy as I am now.

[atomic charvel guy]

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good pst DG, i really dug this girl Tara, and i ended up with her little sister , and then with someone outside her window at 6a.m. for her to see, and i realize now that i was a dick for doing that. she hurt me, buti went a little overboard trying to hurt her. i still get a kick out of reading her stuff, or getting a call from her.