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  • #1

    Need help...

    I figure I would ask here since you guys are wise.

    I'm 20 years old now, back in highschool I kept to myself most of the time and never had a girlfriend, I hung out a couple times with girls that my friends would invite, but I never hung out on my own. I haven't had any intimet with the opposite sex. No kisses, no other stuff. That probably sounds pathetic, because it does to me as I type this.

    Well now I'm at a Community College for a couple of years and gaaaaaasp... guess what.. I'm still a no one until this semester. Until

    This girl sat by me and we did group work ( I made sure to ask her if we could work together right away) We walk out of class together and such talk for 5 minutes because she has class. I want to ask her to hang out, but I'm shy and I really can't see any clues that shes interested in me. Shes from Russia (came here when she was 12) and I was born here, but I have Polish Background, and I speak Polish and I'm currenty learning some Russian since my parents had to learn it back in the communist days.

    Sorry it was so long.

    Edit: Forgot to mention she is smart and beautiful which makes me feel like I have less of a chance.
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  • #2
    Re: Need help...

    I dont see a queston........


    Shawn
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    • #3
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      Nothing ventured......nothing gained! [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]
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      • #4
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        I'm moving out to my Appartment in the city my university is located on monday! A whole new experience is about to unfold for me, blablabla.

        I say go for it! I was a scared little bitch too, until like two years ago, I said: fuck it, life rewards those who try and it SURE DID, let me tell you.

        Just ask if she's going to any parties around the campus soon or if there's a movie she'd like to see. Girls pretty much instantly know what's up when you ask those kind of questions and her response will tell you how she feels. Chances are in this and two days you'll be at some frathouse, drinking, binging and dancing with your girl and who knows what next later in the evening.
        You took too much, man. Too much. Too much.

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        • #5
          Re: Need help...

          As these guys have said. Just do it. I have TONS of stories of regret where I wish I would have just asked the girl out. The worst that could happen is she says no.

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          • #6
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            Dude, just ask her to grab a bite to eat with you. Pretty harmless, right? If she says yes, go ahead and have a good time. Make some easy going conversation.

            As you guys get up from lunch, ask her if she wants to catch a movie or something later in the day or week. Her answer to that will tell the tale.
            Scott
            Be without fear in the face of your enemies. Be brave and upright, that God may love thee. Speak the truth always, even if it leads to your death. Safeguard the helpless and do no wrong.

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            • #7
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              Well, if she keeps talking to you, she has some interest, somewhere, somehow.

              Just say to her in a positive, confident and nice way, "hey, lets go (insert activity here) tonight".

              Just like that, like you EXPECT her to agree. None of this "would you please go to wherever with me if you wish"... That is too iffy and unconfident. Just plain old simple LET'S GO (somewhere), what time could I pick you up etc... Like it is sorta expected of her. Just say it very nicely and confidently.

              Confidence, is the utmost thing here. You have seem like you are assured of your actions and know exactly what you are doing. Shyness, unassuredness, lack of confidence, are nono's. They can smell your fear, remember that, haha... Be brave and confident. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img] But, not so confident you look like a self absorbed, full of yourself type of guy.

              If she can't do it at the time you asked, try to pin her down to a time and date, in a nice but confidently aggressive way, "I enjoy your company, and I'd really enjoy talking more with you away from school. So, when is good for you?" etc.

              If she still can't agree to a date or time, she isn't being receptive.

              Hey bro.. Congrats on good things happening for you...

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              • #8
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                "Insert activity here" Oh yes... Much insertion planned... Hehehe...

                I crack me up, that ruled...

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                • #9
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                  John pretty much covered everything you need to know. Confidence is the key world. You got nothing to loose, just ask. Chicks like that.
                  "There is nothing more fearful than imagination without taste" - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

                  "To be stupid, selfish and have good health are three requirements for happiness, though if stupidity is lacking, all is lost" - Gustave Flaubert

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                  • #10
                    Re: Need help...

                    Definitely ask her out for dinner, coffee or a movie. Let the chips fall where they may. As others have said, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

                    Good luck to you.
                    Takeoffs are optional but landings are mandatory.

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                    • #11
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                      Thanks for the advice. I didn't mention this before, but I have a skin condition on my back where I get scares called keloids. I have a lot of them, not as bad as some of the pictures I've seen on the internet, but Its always brought me down enough to fear getting into a realationship because of it. I just have a bad feeling that I would get denied because of it only to drive my depression more...

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                      • #12
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                        [ QUOTE ]
                        I didn't mention this before, but I have a skin condition on my back where I get scares called keloids. I have a lot of them, not as bad as some of the pictures I've seen on the internet, but Its always brought me down enough to fear getting into a realationship because of it.

                        [/ QUOTE ] Don't worry about that bro. That's something that most women would overlook once they get to know a guy.
                        Scott
                        Be without fear in the face of your enemies. Be brave and upright, that God may love thee. Speak the truth always, even if it leads to your death. Safeguard the helpless and do no wrong.

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                        • #13
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                          Naw...screw that. I have these huge lumps on my left forearm from Dialysis. That don't stop me!
                          John's advice was terrific...I need to re-read that post a few times myself!

                          Good luck, and HAVE FUN!! Don't put too many expectations on anything, it'll only bring you down.

                          Deep Breath...Courage...you are cooler than you think you are!

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                          • #14
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                            Well Michael, it is good that you are pulling some girls from school. Most of the girls I get throwing themselves at me these days are because of my band, and they're all 15-17. No good!

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                            • #15
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                              Forget about the skin condition, bro. That is not who you are. If it becomes an issue with her later, then she's not worth it.
                              Don't worry about it! [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img] You're a cool guy! Girls like boys that are comfortable to be around that make them feel safe, and who are confident and nice to them. Even if we don't admit it, it's what we want. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]
                              You're an interesting dude, just go with who you are.
                              You've been offered the BEST advice already, ask her to grab some lunch with ya and take it from there! [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]
                              Have Fun!! Awesome times. [img]/images/graemlins/headbang.gif[/img]

                              -Em

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