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  • #1

    My dilemma

    I'm sorry if this sounds lame but I feel this is the only way to feel better is to let it out.

    I met this really cool girl in my env. bio class and she is amazing in every way. I'm not that much of a talker so I cannot really keep a conversation with her, sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. She seems to not talk much, but then she will if its something interesting I think. I have hung out with her a couple times with my friends, one time I asked her, the other time my friend asked her (shes a girl not a guy). I have also given her a ride to her house to be nice. I would of felt like a douche if I didn't since she had to wait to get her ride but I don't know if she really wanted a ride or she was just afraid to say no. Today we got to do a project together and it was awesome to be with her. I can't really tell if she is passive and afraid to say no when I ask her to hang out, or if she is interested. She usually stays home and doesn't go out that much since most of her friends are off to another college.

    I really want to date her, but first I just want to hang out with her. I don't really know what to do though. I don't have much experience with this and it always seems doomed for me. This is the only girl I like and I'm sure thats going to shoot me in the foot when I find out that shes not interested in me because it seems like that always happens.
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  • #2
    Re: My dilemma

    You sound like me "she really isnt interested, I'm a dork, why bother?". Ask her to go out and do something like a movie, but not in the context of it being a date. Try to do things during the day as apposed to times that would be associated with dates. Just keep ultra platonic. I did this with my wife and we became really good friends before we got into the relationship.

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    • #3
      Re: My dilemma

      Its really easy to find out if she is interested.

      Try to kiss her.

      Best to find out now, than to get totally into her and suffer the crush.

      Trust me, I have been there plenty of times. I am giving you some sage wisdom here.

      Mike
      Sleep. The sound doesn't collapse to riffs of early eyes either.

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      • #4
        Re: My dilemma

        Sounds good, but what are some good day things to do? I really have no idea what to do. You pretty much got what I feel except for the dork part. I am a dork, but so is she. We laugh at the stupidest things.

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        • #5
          Re: My dilemma

          [ QUOTE ]
          Its really easy to find out if she is interested.

          Try to kiss her.

          Best to find out now, than to get totally into her and suffer the crush.

          Trust me, I have been there plenty of times. I am giving you some sage wisdom here.

          Mike

          [/ QUOTE ]

          Kiss her? thats pretty ballsy, I don't know about that. If she isn't interested than I loose a friendship also.

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          • #6
            Re: My dilemma

            just ask her out, that's it
            "There is nothing more fearful than imagination without taste" - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

            "To be stupid, selfish and have good health are three requirements for happiness, though if stupidity is lacking, all is lost" - Gustave Flaubert

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            • #7
              Re: My dilemma

              ahh man you should be able to tell if she likes you!its all in the eyes mate

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              • #8
                Re: My dilemma

                WTF is this, Dr. Phil? [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img]
                "Quiet, numbskulls, I'm broadcasting!" -Moe Howard, "Micro-Phonies" (1945)

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                • #9
                  Re: My dilemma

                  You're Gay [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img]
                  I am a true ass set to this board.

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                  • #10
                    Re: My dilemma

                    [ QUOTE ]
                    [ QUOTE ]
                    Its really easy to find out if she is interested.

                    Try to kiss her.

                    Best to find out now, than to get totally into her and suffer the crush.

                    Trust me, I have been there plenty of times. I am giving you some sage wisdom here.

                    Mike

                    [/ QUOTE ]

                    Kiss her? thats pretty ballsy, I don't know about that. If she isn't interested than I loose a friendship also.

                    [/ QUOTE ]

                    Dude, I am not trying to be harsh on you...but it is obvious that you dig this chick. So, don't be a pussy. If you don't get past this initial stage and either get shot down, or make her your girlfriend, you will end up one of these lovesick puppy dog friends of hers. Always wanting her, never having her.

                    I am telling you, man. I am almost 36 and I know what I am talking about here. I have BEEN THAT GUY.

                    Mike
                    Sleep. The sound doesn't collapse to riffs of early eyes either.

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                    • #11
                      Re: My dilemma

                      Ask her if she'd like to get a cup of coffee after class. If she says yes, she's probably interested.

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                      • #12
                        Re: My dilemma

                        I wouldn't go with Mike's "SAGE WISDOK" quite so quickly it may just very well be your quiet laid back attitude that's attractive to her.
                        Jason has some great advise.
                        I wouldn't be at all surprised if she allready knows you're interested in her and is wondering why you're taking so long to approach her.
                        I understand completely where you're coming from but remember sooner or later the law of averages turns in our favor...good luck
                        P.S. If you feel funny when your around her and even funnyer away from her you may be in serious trouble!!!!!

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                        • #13
                          Re: My dilemma

                          As a female who has dealt with many different types of guys - my suggestion is to do the day time things - go for lunch or coffee, don't necessarily make it a special effort - just when you are heading out say "Hey, I was going to go for a coffee, wanna go with?" or like that. Or you invite her to something a few people are going to - "some of us were thinking of cathing a flick -why don't you come too?". Get her involved with the group. Once you get to hang out with her, find out more about her, then ask her to dinner, drinks, etc. Slow is good, and you get more of a feel for her.

                          And I hate to say it, if a guy I just know slightly just ramdomly tried to kiss me, even if I did like him, he'd probably get slapped! Treat her with respect!

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                          • #14
                            Re: My dilemma

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                            Kiss her? thats pretty ballsy, I don't know about that. If she isn't interested than I loose a friendship also.

                            [/ QUOTE ]

                            Dude, I am not trying to be harsh on you...but it is obvious that you dig this chick. So, don't be a pussy. If you don't get past this initial stage and either get shot down, or make her your girlfriend, you will end up one of these lovesick puppy dog friends of hers. Always wanting her, never having her.

                            I am telling you, man. I am almost 36 and I know what I am talking about here. I have BEEN THAT GUY.

                            Mike

                            [/ QUOTE ]
                            dude, Mike is totally right about this. trust me.

                            one other thing, guys don't have friends that are girls. they have girls they are dating (fucking) and girls that they may date or want to date but haven't hooked up with yet. only pussies have friends that are girls. sorry, but that's the truth here.

                            on the other side, girls say they want guy friends, but that is just so they have someone warming up in the bullpen in case their real choice of guy to date (fuck) bails or does not last.

                            you really need to listen to Tom Leykis (Leykis 101), he will tell you all you need to know.
                            streaming audio of his syndicated radio show on exactly this topic is here:
                            http://blowmeuptom.com/

                            don't continue to be a pussy. go for it, or go on to the next one.
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                            the guitar players look damaged - they've been outcasts all their lives

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                            • #15
                              Re: My dilemma

                              i think mrstekky is spot on with the kiss/slap aspect.dont listen to the others..lol

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