futile relationship?

[mm2002]

Damn...I'm gonna go hug my wife!

I agree with everyone about getting out now. Time will only make it worse.

[dg]

Damn...I'm gonna go hug my wife!

I agree with everyone about getting out now. Time will only make it worse.

+1 (I'll hug mine, promise )

Definitely move on. Life's too short to put up with the bullshit. Find someone you're compatible with, who wants the same things out of life as yourself. You don't have to agree on every little detail, just the big stuff. Go for more than just physical attraction. That's where 99.9% of people (both men and women) fuck up when it comes to relationships. You probably won't find her right away (took me many years), but you can have a blast looking. I sure as hell did! One other thing, if you go into it assuming that all women are the enemy and you have to treat them like shit to get your way, don't expect much. That's what is known as a self-fulfilling prophesy. You get what you give. Hell, you get even more than you give when it clicks.

[YetAnotherOne]

I have to go with Skorb on this one, I'm not saying that every single one wants to be treated like dishwater, but she's right, they are out there, especially out here, and an ex of mine used to flip her medusa -like head when I would not emgage in battle with her.

Right on Tommy, been there, done that. There are an awful lot of women out there, maybe even a majority of young single women, who respond favorably to being treated poorly most of the time and well only on occasion, or at least more favorably than to being treated well all of the time. Sucks but it's probably part of the fascination young women have with bad guys.

Me personally I'd find someone to sleep with behind the bitch's back then pit them against each other and make them compete for you. If they're young the odds are good that whichever one you wind up with will treat you better than your girlfriend does now.

[lerxstcat]

i have been seeing a certain girl for over 4 years. the more i see her, the more of a bitch she is. but rather than give her a piece of my mind (she's a two-faced hypocrite), i just take all the verbal shit. why? i always feel the relationship is hanging by a thread and i'm too frightened that i'll lose her. so is it right to take shit to get what you want?

Remember that song by The Offspring, "Self Esteem"? It's time to get some for yourself!

If you're worried about being alone, find another girl first and then dump the 2-faced hypocritical bitch. Her sister or best friend would be a great choice as far as zinging her good on your way out. Your name will be mud with her when you leave no matter how you do it, so you may as well deserve the shit she's gonna say.

[wilkinsi]

i am gonna sever my loyalty and hunt for someone new, then cease contact with the bitch. thanks for the advice.

[lerxstcat]

Yeah, but only one used the C word.

Just curious as to why "puss" and "asshole" are okay but the c-word is not? I would like to know the verboten words so I can know not to use them. I've managed to stay out of trouble for awhile now and would like to keep it that way.

[lerxstcat]

i don't mistreat women. i actually think i'm too nice (and being so could be my problem), but i have no intention of changing to extent of getting revenge. i've been dumped before, and although it upset me, i wasn't too bothered because i was already seeing this one. it's hard to let go of hope.

So you followed my current advice the last time; you lined this one up when you were still with the last one. That's fine, just do that again. The vengeance thing was just an idea if you felt vengeful, but not necessary.

Do you think maybe she figures you'll do that - find another girl and dump her - because that's how you came to be with her? Maybe that's the root of her hostility. Technically you were cheating when you started seeing her, she could figure it's fated to end the same way. She might be waiting for the other shoe to drop. If you do value the relationship maybe you should talk about that, as long as you're ready for the shit to hit the fan. I'm not doggong you by asking this, just your last post made me think about that.

[wilkinsi]

started seeing the current one at first. she suggested i try someone else. then when i do, she gets all pissy at me (apparantly they hate each other). the 2nd one then dumps me over some bullshit, so i stuck with the first and only now it's getting really bad. i get shit all the time regardless, but the last couple weeks have just taken the piss.

[dg]

I think if you keep things casual & just date & have some fun before getting into a commitment, you can figure out whether you're dealing with a bitch or not. That way, it's not like you're cheating if you shop around a little. I still don't think you have to treat 'em bad, just don't be a doormat. Big difference. The more you talk about this current girl, the more I'm sure you need to just dump her & start fresh. Why drag it out?

[toejam]

Just curious as to why "puss" and "asshole" are okay but the c-word is not? I would like to know the verboten words so I can know not to use them. I've managed to stay out of trouble for awhile now and would like to keep it that way.

He said, "lesson of your lifetime - women are cunts". Seems like he's making that generalization of all women. Don't you think Jeri, Annah or any other woman on this forum would take offense to that vulgarity? I've got no problem with the word personally, but why would you use it on a public, private forum? Please ask any other admin if they think it's okay to use that word; I really want to know what their response is.
And BTW, he's only suspended for three days.

[~K~]

Anything that denotes a hostile environment on the JCF will be dealt with accordingly. In the past we have moved religious threads, homophobic threads etc etc etc and this is no different...

This atmosphere is about guitars and music.. not pushing your world views over in a manner that can make other people on this board feel uncomfortable... Is the "C" word allowed here.. well we really don't censor people here but c'mon lets use a little bit of common sense..

Freedom of speech means you CAN say something.. it doesn't mean you should ... with freedom comes responsibility..............

[GodOfRhythm]

Here comes the little know-it-all again.

What Skorb said is true and here's why I think (and apparently so does a large part of psychology) so: attraction is still a primarily primal instinctual thing. A man that treats a woman 'bad', or at least isn't kissing up the entire time, shows he is a) independent and b) exhibits alpha-male behavior. Being self-secure, being handsome, etc etc all fits into this concept as well.

Just my $0.02 on the situation.

[Inearthed]

the guys are all correct, you need to

Dump That Bitch

she is doing all that shit because you let her.

here's a poorly-kept secret: women like being treated like crap. they never admit this, but actions speak louder than words. they like the dicks who treat them shitty, they always go for the assholes. nice guys always lose in the dating game.

find your inner asshole!
you'll get more ass than a toilet seat.

Hahahaha... Tom, is that you?

He said, "lesson of your lifetime - women are cunts". Seems like he's making that generalization of all women. Don't you think Jeri, Annah or any other woman on this forum would take offense to that vulgarity? I've got no problem with the word personally, but why would you use it on a public, private forum? Please ask any other admin if they think it's okay to use that word; I really want to know what their response is.
And BTW, he's only suspended for three days.

Use the word filter if it is that bad. Suspending someone for three days because they used one word in a general statement is a bit ridiculous to me.

[toejam]

So if all women in a general sense are, that would mean every one of them like his statemet seems to allude to; my mom, your mom, etc. Is that cool? That's a little ridiculous to me.

[Inearthed]

So if all women in a general sense are, that would mean every one of them like his statemet seems to allude to; my mom, your mom, etc. Is that cool? That's a little ridiculous to me.

Just words on a message board man, I read his post and more than anything else it sounded like he had a bad experience and is bitter about it.