Here is my current situation. The band I have been with for two years played our first show last saturday. Please refer to my "Organization is Key" thread.
The other guitarist and I were talking and we are really looking for something more serious. A band that could turn into something more. We know the other guys don't want to with our current band so we are thinking about starting something else. Him and I write very well together, push each other as guitarists, have a great combined tone, are great friends, and are bitter Guitar Hero II rivals...
The music we write is some of the best music I have ever played. Its a cross between Living Sacrifice, Unearth, and a few others. Playing it makes me a much better guitar player.
Normally it would be a no-brainer but he, as of Monday, is going through a separation/possible divorce with his wife. He is pretty messed up right now and I offered him a place to stay if he needs it. He will most likely take me up on that offer. It could take a while before he is ready to focus on anything musically right now which is totally fine with me. What he is going through is obviously more important than anything we do.
Now here's the kink... There's another band who I am good friends with around here. The guys are a bit older than me (late 20's, early 30's) but are great musicians. They are talented, organized, and they have the drive and ambition to do something more than just play bars if they get the shot. They want me to play with them and I told them we could talk about it. I have 5 weeks to learn their tunes (which would not be that hard). The music they play is not as fast, driving, or techincally demanding as I am used to but it is very heavy and has a great groove to it... (they tune to B). I like playing it but I admit it does get a little boring. The appealing thing is they are very tight onstage and I think they have a lot of potential. Plus they are already quite established. They've played separately with some bigs bands like Yngwie (I know he is kind of a gomer but hey... opening for him would have been cool right). I can post a link to their myspace site if you guys wanna check em out.
The bad thing about playing with them is that sometimes it gets a little too serious. There is sometimes no middle ground between "take your music seriously but not so serious that you are not having fun and have fun but not too much that you are not taking your music seriously." I think the fact that I am 10 years younger than them and I can play their stuff is a little intimidating. Sometimes it causes egos to come out and ya.... you guys know how that is.
The appealing thing of writing music with my friend is that I love the music and we both want to do the same thing. The problem is that we would have to start completely over as far as members go. Once we got a good drummer, bassist, and singer we'd be fine but we all know how long that can take. It would not be a sure thing.
The final problem is that I feel like whoever I say no to, I will burn some sort of bridge. I know both parties should respect whatever decision I make but still...
Any advice?
The other guitarist and I were talking and we are really looking for something more serious. A band that could turn into something more. We know the other guys don't want to with our current band so we are thinking about starting something else. Him and I write very well together, push each other as guitarists, have a great combined tone, are great friends, and are bitter Guitar Hero II rivals...
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Normally it would be a no-brainer but he, as of Monday, is going through a separation/possible divorce with his wife. He is pretty messed up right now and I offered him a place to stay if he needs it. He will most likely take me up on that offer. It could take a while before he is ready to focus on anything musically right now which is totally fine with me. What he is going through is obviously more important than anything we do.
Now here's the kink... There's another band who I am good friends with around here. The guys are a bit older than me (late 20's, early 30's) but are great musicians. They are talented, organized, and they have the drive and ambition to do something more than just play bars if they get the shot. They want me to play with them and I told them we could talk about it. I have 5 weeks to learn their tunes (which would not be that hard). The music they play is not as fast, driving, or techincally demanding as I am used to but it is very heavy and has a great groove to it... (they tune to B). I like playing it but I admit it does get a little boring. The appealing thing is they are very tight onstage and I think they have a lot of potential. Plus they are already quite established. They've played separately with some bigs bands like Yngwie (I know he is kind of a gomer but hey... opening for him would have been cool right). I can post a link to their myspace site if you guys wanna check em out.
The bad thing about playing with them is that sometimes it gets a little too serious. There is sometimes no middle ground between "take your music seriously but not so serious that you are not having fun and have fun but not too much that you are not taking your music seriously." I think the fact that I am 10 years younger than them and I can play their stuff is a little intimidating. Sometimes it causes egos to come out and ya.... you guys know how that is.
The appealing thing of writing music with my friend is that I love the music and we both want to do the same thing. The problem is that we would have to start completely over as far as members go. Once we got a good drummer, bassist, and singer we'd be fine but we all know how long that can take. It would not be a sure thing.
The final problem is that I feel like whoever I say no to, I will burn some sort of bridge. I know both parties should respect whatever decision I make but still...
Any advice?
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