Anyone hear this song before.....

[drockilles]

"I think I want a divorce". Yeah, that's what I'm dealing with right now. To go on about me and my wife's history would take a couple pages, but bottom line, we've been best friend for 6+ years and married for almost two. Now she thinks we made a mistake. She's been home maybe a total of 3 hours the past week, after she brought this up on Monday. And I don't know what to think. She's telling me things like "You're too good for me, you could do better", etc. That, and she doesn't think we love each other the way we should? First she's saying she doesn't want a divorce, then does, then doesn't again. Yes, we have our problems, but nothing that's not normal. She's pretty much ripping my heart out and sometimes doesn't seem to care, other times bawling her eyes out. I'm just confused as to how to take this/what to do, lookiing for some words of inspiration or advice, cause I don't know how we'll overcome this without things being akward in the future. She picked a great time of year to pull this shit on me, huh? Anyway
Thanks if you took the time to read all this and give a bro some help.
Derek

[yard dawg]

Man if she hasnt been there shes probably already messed around on ya. I hate to say that . I hope you get things going better for ya soon dude. If there is a kid involved I hate it for ya even worse.

[quakana]

That sucks. If she has not been home where is she staying? If she is with another guy I would say end it right there. If not maybe try counsuling together or maybe she needs to talk to someone with the mood swings sounds like she could be depressed Good Luck either way man!

[ApeDosMil]

Sounds like she found another dude and is trying to lighten the load by saying you could do better.

[Soap]

Sounds like she found another dude and is trying to lighten the load by saying you could do better.

Exactly

[drockilles]

No, she's not with another guy. She's been hanging out with a mutual friend. (My best bro's girlfriend). Anyway, fuck it all.

[stevieb91]

After 10 years,I got the same line for my birthday.Ultimatley,you can't do it for both of you. If she has made up her mind (home for 3 hours in the last week says she is not very willing to work things out),all you will wind up doing is beating the snot out of yourself trying to make it happen.

Yes,it was rough at first.Yes my first Christmas alone with my kids was rough,really rough,but I can honestly say it gets better..

If you really think that it won't work out,I would advise ending it before children are in the equasion. If you think it would be bad just losing her,don't wait for them to be a factor.Yes,I have custody of mine,no,she can't be bothered with them,and I know deep down inside it really eats at them..

Drop me a p.m. any time,bro..

Steve.

[LouSiffer]

I say let her go and find another cum dumpster......they are all over the place.-Lou

[Horse Called War]

You can't make someone love you. Sounds like she met someone else to me. Sorry,bro

[wulfe13]

If she's saying that you could do better, she probably at least cheated on you and the guilt is getting the best of her. Sorry bro....

[drockilles]

Well, after a week, she's actually going to be home tonight so we can talk. Still don't think she cheated, although that seems to be the general consensus here. Maybe I'm in denial or just don't care anymore. Everyone that I tell that knows us says I could do better. Which is getting really annoying. Anyway, I don't see this getting resolved easily, but if she pulls the "I still love you with all my heart" crap again tonight, I'm gonna explode.

[toejam]

Sounds like my ex-wife. Best thing I ever did was get divorced. If I'm single for the rest of my life, I'll be a pretty happy man.

[SouthPlatteDemon]

Never say never. Sometimes things work out once they figure their shit out. Don't hold anything against her.

Most of all. Don't try to understand why. Men will never understand why women think the way they do.

If it's meant to be, she'll end up back with you.

[atomic charvel guy]

the only thing that I can think of that's as bad a feeling as being dope sick is a truly broken heart, and I'm sorry yours is getting walked on right now. Just because a heart breaks doesn't mean it doesn't keep beating though, and that's the hard part. You want to get cheered up, i'll tell you what happened to me, i'll pm you my digits, give me a call, i'll cheer you up first and then leave you drop jawed and you'll be feeling a little bit better i promise. .

[dg]

Every situation is different. Don't worry about what the general consensus is on an internet BB, fer chrissakes. There are hundreds of possible things that could be going on besides her cheating on you. Depression or bipolar disorder for starters. Maybe you guys need some counseling to make sure you're on the same page and want the same things out of your life & marriage. I've known lots of people who thought it was over & managed to get it back, but both of you have to want to make it work. My wife & I lived together for 8 years, then separated for a year & a half before getting back together. That was six years ago. Like I said, every situation is unique. Good luck, and I hope this works out for the best.