Thinking about a divorce...

[toejam]

Did you marry my ex-wife?!? You're doomed. Get out now.

[Top Jimmy B]

Yeah, take marital advice from me and toejam.

Talk to your wife and a counsellor, dude. It's a huge decision and requires much more thought and analysis than anyone of us can offer. Best of luck.

[toejam]

Yeah, take marital advice from me and toejam.

We can open our own practice together. There'd be an awful lot of pissed off people, though. :ROTF:

[UFORocks]

Man, three weeks after and she screwed around on you? Yeah, she's got issues, but honestly if the roles were reversed you'd be out the door on your ass already bud, without her giving it a second thought. If I were in your shoes the marriage would be over already. But who am I to talk, my wife and I havent even crossed our second anniverssary yet. LOL

I hope you find the answer you're looking for.

Later,

Steve

[kelly user]

sounds like your afraid of change.... divorce her ass, then move on. its kind of hardcore but its the cold heart truth. the way i look at it she hurt you bro, why should you care, if she doesn't

[khabibissell]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, I'm sure that it is difficult to say the least.

[Special-K]

It`s really sad....

[bonghits]

Did you marry my ex-wife?!? You're doomed. Get out now.

I guess you married my ex-girlfriend Joe, then she became your ex-wife. Was she super-duper bitchy but a pornstar in bed? Cause if she was then we're talking about the same girl.

[hammer84]

How long have you been married ??? AFter she bonked someone else 3 weeks in would have been the good time to split.

You could be setting yourself up for life time of support if you don't get a good laywer.

My friend has basicly a life time support clause in his divorce because he married his wife and she clamed all of her mental and physical problem started AFTER they got married.

I would not take any legal advice from any one here who is not a practicing divorce attorney in your state/county. The judges/laws vary wildly from one county and state.

You and your lawyers prep before you spring it on her could make a huge difference.

[skorb]

D-t-b

[horns666]

Any good thoughts on it?

My wife is physically violent, mentally unstable, selfish, critical, two-faced, and has cheated on me with an ex...3 weeks after we got married, I went camping with my bro in law, and she got drunk and manic...

I thought I'de get through it, and over it... I love her, and I know she loves me...but I just don't think its working out. She isn't capable of a unconditional functional love.

I hate to hurt her, but I can't live walking on eggshells the rest of my life.

I hate to disapppint our families...
And I hate to get fincially fucked by not having a second income..

and I hate to have some lonely nights...

But ultimately, I don't think I can live like this anymore.

Dude, she may still love you, and I KNOW you love her. At this time she has lost ALL respect for you, which is just as important as "love". Kissing ass in attempt to "fix" things and make ammends will just confirm her stance and percieve you as "pathetic"..which will make things drag on longer and make things much worse..she'll take your kindness for weakness and that's where this issue of respect come into play, and it's happening as we speak!

I know a way to possibly get your respect back..If you wish to PM me, I will explain how..I don't want to elaborate those details on this thread..if your interested..PM me , if you feel your relationship is salvagable or it may be too far gone..we'll see.

I have a lot of "smarts" and logic when it comes to these issues..all my freinds come to me for help whenever the domestic shit hits the fan..and I never steered them wrong!

Besides, I handled more Domestic problems that I can count with perfect strangers on a daily basis.

Also I've ben happily married for 20 years..so I must be doing something right.

Bill

[VEGETATHEPUPPET]

My parents are divorced... well...

[GWARGHOUL]

No kids. Just had our 3 month "anniversary".

I grew up with the domestic violence and shit.
I've lost respect for her.
She wants to work it out, I don't think I do.

I think I'de be happier by myself.
..And theres a chick I've known for 4 years out in Long Beach, and we've always had a "thing"... and yeah...

I think in most states within 6 months, an anullment can be granted, right?

I do not want to let things get nasty. Theres a small possibility I may work this out, but I'm out the dorr the next time, which to say I KNOW there will be a next time she gets crazy, so its really pointless to keep saying "next time"...

I'm trying to see if I can find a place to stay as we speak. Tryign to rent a room from my buddy, who lives closer to my job and my school.

[GWARGHOUL]

And shes onto the fact that I'm fed up, and about to jump. Shes calling me telling em she loves me asking em to talk to her, askign em whats wrong...etc.

Of course, I tell her "I'm at work- I don't want/can't talk right now, will when I get home"..

and I get the pshyco shit all over again...
"I won't be here"
"don't bother coming home"...

etc etc

FUCK HER..I lvoe her so much.. buT FUCK HER

[Newc]

I'm sorry bro, sad situation w/o question. Normally I'd say run...run away fast and hard but what keeps popping in my head is phrase "through sickness and health" ...

The one that keeps running through my head is "forsaking all others".

Gwar, take the big hint and drop her like a hot potato. Check with an attorney and see what your options are. Maybe see if it's not too late to get the marriage annulled?

Do NOT let people walk on you because they will never stop, especially once you're married to them, because the threat of financial ruin will always be their biggest weapon.

I don't recall you saying that you had a kid by her, so get out now before you do, and definitely don't have sex with her again, because all she has to do is say you got her pregnant and you're paying her for the next 18 years.

If by chance she DOES come up pregnant, demand a DNA test as soon as it can be done - make her PROVE it's yours.

But if it was me, I'd be gone as fast as lightning. The one problem I'll never believe that can be worked out is screwing around. Money comes and goes, personalities clash constantly, and some people just get mentally stressed, but sex is something you WANT and LOOK FOR, it doesn't "just happen".

She went looking for it from someone else, and found it. Leave her where she found it and go find yourself a better one.