Serious "Thiftstore Babe" Input needed

[fett]

Most of you guys know. But her plight is killing me. I can "Save" her. I can do this. The love of my life, my wife, died in 1989. I'm still not over that. But this lady is the first spark I have had since then and she is worth saving. I think. She is beautiful and all that stuff. But she is destitute. I just don't know what to do. And I'm asking my grandsons, sons and brothers. How helpless is that?

[fett]

Bad spelling. Sorry

[dg]

Gotta follow your heart on this one, bro. That's the only advice I can think of. You're a good guy & I'd hate to see you get burned. I'm a softie & have been taken advantage of a time or two, but when you can really help someone out it makes it all worth it, imo.

[fett]

I am so wrapped up in myself, it's hard. I have been a loner all my life. At the ripe old age of 57 (she is 49) do I need this?

[mm2002]

Sounds to me like maybe you DO need it.....think about it bro.

[FusionFarmer]

Just be honest.
1st thing, clean your trailer up and have her come over and see who you really are. Let her know the real you. If shes cool with that, then you will know you have someone who is worth some effort, My number one rule when dealing with situations like this, the person you want to help out must be willing to help themselves out and be willing to work themselves out of their predicament,

[fett]

There comes a time when you can make a difference (sp) in someone's life. I can't save the world. But, I have an in my face situation, that can make a very nice lady get back up.

[fett]

Just be honest.
1st thing, clean your trailer up and have her come over and see who you really are. Let her know the real you. If shes cool with that, then you will know you have someone who is worth some effort, My number one rule when dealing with situations like this, the person you want to help out must be willing to help themselves out and be willing to work themselves out of their predicament,

1: I can't clean the traier. 2: Thats why I am buying the one next door. 3; she knows me for what I am. Just like you guys. 4: If I had any brains, I should have then examined,:ROTF:

[Bengal]

Fett,
Your a cool/sweet/good dude. We all can see that from what you post. No issues there...

I suspect you already know the answer to your question, your just looking for validation. That's cool and all, but listen to yourself. We don't know her. We don't know how cool or sweet or honest or whatever she is. You do. So go with what YOU know...

You have to lay yourself bare sometimes to get the brass ring. You know if she's worth that or not...

You also have to deal with the death of your wife. It's been a while but sometimes that's not enough. You said your not over it yet. You may never be. But are you over it enough to have another relationship? How do you think your wife would want you to live your life? Alone or with someone you can share with? You know the answer to that one too...

You already have all the answers. It's just trusting yourself to make the decisions...

But to answer your question from my standpoint, knowing what I do about you, I say go for it. Life is too short to live alone...

[Joe_Steeler]

Fett follow your heart. Give it a shot and take it a step at a time. It is NEVER too late when the right feelings and intentions are there.
There can be love again and just like spring foilage there can be a re-birth.
Don't just go crazy for the sake of jumping in a doing it. Baby steps, feel yuor way through and see what happens.

Life is too short and you got to take care of yourself and if in the process you are making somebody else happy and feel loved or taken care off ,it is a win-win situation.
Being alone with nobody to talk to and share your thoughts sucks.
Give it a chance..... who knows? but if you don't try you will never know, would you?

Good luck dude.

[Soap]

I see absolutely nothing wrong with an easy and simple date, if you would call it that. Start simple...take her to dinner, lunch, a local coffee shop, a museum and just get acquainted, feel it out, see what the vibe is. If its a mutual decent positive experience, schedule another get together. We all need companionship regardless of our age. It could turn out to be a nice friendship. I say go for it...your a grown man and you know how and what to do.

[YetAnotherOne]

Life's too short, go for it. Better a wonderful mess to extricate yourself from later than the regret of wondering "what if" for the rest of your life.

[mab8485]

^^^ Yep. Go for it. If it falls through, you'll just be in the same situation as you are right now.

Good luck Fett

[krimson]

Fett, your 57 years young and you still have alot of living to do, so go do whatever makes you happy. You only have to lose what you put into it.

[Cleveland Metal]

Just be careful bro. I want you to hook up with the one you care for. BUT, the ones that need saving are often a problem and will get saved then stick it up youur ass shortly after getting saved.

I just went through this myself (again), and it didnt look like she would be the one to do it, but she sure did. She was extremely independant ands didn't want to be saved it seemed. So, I felt safe giving her a lot of labor assistance getting a new fixer upper house together when she lost her old $$$ house due to job loss and house foreclosure. Coupe months after it was done, she became cold and bogus and I was on the outside looking in haha...

You do too much and they lose respect for you man. I ain't kiddin...

Just be careful, and don't get hook lined and sinkered.