Serious "Thiftstore Babe" Input needed

[horns666]

Just be careful bro. I want you to hook up with the one you care for. BUT, the ones that need saving are often a problem and will get saved then stick it up youur ass shortly after getting saved.

I just went through this myself (again), and it didnt look like she would be the one to do it, but she sure did. She was extremely independant ands didn't want to be saved it seemed. So, I felt safe giving her a lot of labor assistance getting a new fixer upper house together when she lost her old $$$ house due to job loss and house foreclosure. Coupe months after it was done, she became cold and bogus and I was on the outside looking in haha...

You do too much and they lose respect for you man. I ain't kiddin...

Just be careful, and don't get hook lined and sinkered.

John speaks from experience..more than in these words
he posted.

Fett, just get to know her, no obligations. Many women take kindness for weakness. Not all, but MANY!

Remember, whatever drama she has in your life you WILL adopt when you make that leap. You know more about her than we do. Get to REALLY know her..everthing you can and then decide.."Do I need this".

I understand that you a caring and sincere person. I've known so many good guys get screwd, not in a good way. Many men have ruined their lives over this and have!

Destitute = Desperate..Dependant women have "evil" survival instincts programmed in their DNA. They put the Man in Manipulate.

Godspeed,

Bill Z Bub

[Rsmacker]

I'm with those who say just be careful not to end up being shafted just because you are a caring bloke. That said, don't pass up the chance to start a loving relationship by being too wary. You will know if it's the right thing to do, as you knew when you decided to get together with your first wife.

At the end of the day, only you can make the decision, but you know that everyone here supports you, cos you're a nice chap, and there's way too few of those about.

Best of luck.



PS If you want to know any slick Japanese rope bondage or associated deviance.............erm, Shobet's yer man!

[horns666]

"PS If you want to know any slick Japanese rope bondage or associated deviance.............erm, Shobet's yer man! "

Uncle Shob is the epitome of facial pud fwopping!

I just made that up, and not exactly sure what it means.. but's it's prolly true!!!

[RacerX]

The dark horse, or red herring here - if you will - is the daughter...she sounds like bad news and you need to make sure she doesn't enter your life to any extent. All those pawn shop guitars will find themselves right back in a pawn shop without you knowing it if you aren't careful!

Hot thriftstore lady = good
Druggie daughter = bad, mmkay

[straycat]

IMO I smell somthing fishey not old meat but baggage always fucks up stuff.
Don't be too giving to this woman you may be enabling her to feed her daughters habits.I would remain some distance from this situation she needs to pull herself up not you.
Don't take it wrong Fett just giving you my opinion. I have been screwed over three times I know what lonley feels like.

[horns666]

Fett, you really like her..huh?

OK, I would say something like .."I like you, I can't help you with any problems, I got my own."

"I'll tell you what. How about you come over, I'll order a pizza, watch a movie, have some sex, get to know you better..and see what happends."

Then if she mentions ANY problems..just go.."I'm Sorry, that's terrible..Hey, how's that Pizza?"

Let HER pick the movie AND the toppings!!!!..that shows class.

This works for many people, as we speak..why not you?

[Pigsnatcher]

fett and thriftstore babe sitting on a tree... :ROTF:

F...U...C....K....I...N...G

[Strat God]

Throw caution to the wind. Fuck it. Make it happen.
You got nothing to lose Fett.

If nothing else, your helping a babe that you like, right?
Everything else is gravy.

[Firebird V]

Go for it dude. You have been alone long enough and I am sure yourwife would want you to move on and be happy.

Whatever you do, don't let her see this place. :ROTF:

+1. DONT EVEN MUMBLE THE LETTERS J C or F!

[Firebird V]

Fett, you really like her..huh?

OK, I would say something like .."I like you, I can't help you with any problems, I got my own."

"I'll tell you what. How about you come over, I'll order a pizza, watch a movie, have some sex, get to know you better..and see what happends."

Then if she mentions ANY problems..just go.."I'm Sorry, that's terrible..Hey, how's that Pizza?"

Let HER pick the movie AND the toppings!!!!..that shows class.

This works for many people, as we speak..why not you?

you guys are killing me over here.... rotf! The pizza line is the clincherr... lol... oooohhh sharp stabbing side pains.... can't stop laughing!!!!

[fett]

The dark horse, or red herring here - if you will - is the daughter...she sounds like bad news and you need to make sure she doesn't enter your life to any extent. All those pawn shop guitars will find themselves right back in a pawn shop without you knowing it if you aren't careful!

Hot thriftstore lady = good
Druggie daughter = bad, mmkay

Ron has pointed out my major concern. I dont live far enough away from where the thriftstore babe lives now. I'm not sure there is "far enough away from" the daughter both literally and figuratively. If the daughter was not in the picture, I would have no hesitation going after my love.

[jwoods986]

I must have missed a post where the daughter was mentioned. I assume that this daughter with "problems" lives with her mom still? How old is she?

[fett]

Sorry about that. The daughter is the 800 pound gorilla in the room. I brought this up at 'fett's New Trailer'. I started this new thread for your input on this specific matter. And, I trully thank you all. The daughter is 21 and is/was living with her. The last I heard was she got a job at Costco and was to go out on her own. My love's phone is disconnected and I haven't talked to her in awhile. Do, I really don't know what is really going on.

[GodOfRhythm]

Everyone needs love. If the mother realizes that, she will make room for you in her life and her heart. That means that in the beginning you can effectively just see her without her daughter being in the picture (i.o.w. the mother comes over to your place). This will only work if she realizes she needs love and someone to fall back on as well, you'll be her lover and confidant.

One you've established as firm a relationship as you can in that format, THEN it's time to perhaps start figuring the daughter in the relationship. If the mother loves you enough, she will allow you to help rectify the situation with her daughter, assuming that is what YOU want, Fett.

At that point you'll have to lay down the law and perhaps even forcefully get the daughter off the drugs. Just empty out her room, just a matrass and a blanket and shut the fucking DOOR! You go in there 3 times a day and serve her dinner. When she really starts freaking out, do NOT go in there, let her get through it. (Of course, sometimes you can enter the room, or let the mother enter the room to be a strong shoulder for the daughter). You'll have to make sure the mother is in a strict regimen too, she can NOT help her daughter break out, she can NOT help her daughter get any drugs.

If you succeed in that, she'll be off the stuff cold turkey in no time. It's COLD TURKEY or nothing.

[Inazone]

In regards to the daughter, just tell Thriftstore Babe:

"I am past the point in my life where I'm interested in raising another man's child."

My wife's sister (I make no claim to her as my "sister-in-law") is a wreck who, like her mother, latched onto any man who would take her because she couldn't/wouldn't do anything to fend for herself. When my wife's mom (again, I don't claim her) remarried, the sister immediately moved in with the newlyweds. Instant drama. Drugs, shady friends, lack of meaningful employment, the works. Luckily, my wife has seen her sister's endless cycle of self-destruction and has stayed away, but last I heard, some upstanding young lad fell for her damsel-in-distress routine and is up to his nuts in it.