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**horns666** · 12-20-2007, 02:33 AM

Dude, I wouldn't let it bother you. If someone is being that gay over your music or playing..it's probably jealousy more than anything.

I always found whenever someone actually hates me..it's people I prefer not to like me anywhoo. They never voice it directly, but more in their actions/body language..which I'd ignore anyway.

"Hate mail" is nothing but text. I don't think you can truly hate anyone without actually knowing them. It's nothing more than two 14 year old puberts getting into a text message arguement.

Next time someone does that..give a reason to hate you and be done with it. Say that you'll fuck his mom on Christmas morn..under the tree..in front of loved ones...something nice like that. Or just ignore it all together.

**Mordor** · 12-20-2007, 02:43 AM

Yeah, as Bill said, just ignore it. If good e-mails are worth answers for any good single word, hate mails are worth just to be ignored. You're not a killer or a criminal, you're just a musician, people can't hate music. It's just an email of some idiot with too much free time.

**OnlineStageGear** · 12-20-2007, 02:45 AM

There is always someone who is going to hate something, even if it is the absolute best it could possible be. What one person likes, another may not like one bit. I don't like much country or rap, but there are millions of people who do. I would have to agree with Horns666 that if someone were to go through the trouble of actually sending you an email about it, there is some jealousy to it. You do what you do for the people who like it. Those who don't can kiss your ass. That's why there is more than one channel on the radio. If you hear a song you don't like, don't go to the person who wrote it and bitch about it, change the damn channel.

Matt

**Endrik** · 12-20-2007, 03:32 AM

delete, next letter

you shouldn't take hate letters seriously, infact appriciate them because they are written by people who are very bitter and jelaous of you... usually talentless hacks who can feel good about themselves only when talking shit about people whos abilities they want to have

**DrDoug** · 12-20-2007, 05:02 AM

Yup, trash it and ignore it. Feeding trolls is a bad habit to get in to. I look at it this way; there are many people who are better than I am at guitar, and many who are worse. I play for MY enjoyment, and if others enjoy it, more power to them and it makes me feel good. If someone does not like it, fuck them. I am not playing for them, and nobody is making them listen to me or making them complain.

An ass smells like an ass, and it looks like you got mail from an ass. Treat it like a goose would, like water off its back. If some ass wants to show what an asshat they are, let them waste their time. I would not give them the time of day.

Sorry to hear that this happened, but do not let it get you down. Move on to the next letter, and I bet that will wipe that ass clean out of your memory.

**Jacksons Shred** · 12-20-2007, 06:11 AM

Hey man, don't worry about it. No one can ever be completly satisfied with everything, someone's always finding something to complain about.

Once you start getting as much hate mail as maddox

Bullshit Hate Mail.

http://maddox.xmission.com/hatemail.cgi?p=1

hahaha hate mail!

Then..I'd start to worry, until then, don't worry about it.

**Newc** · 12-20-2007, 07:47 AM

Sounds like you may have gotten an email from someone who professes to be enormously better than you from a technical standpoint?

Tell him to send you a link to his material. If he does, and if it's all technical masturbation exercises, no matter how impressive it is, deride him for wasting your time with his drivel which he refers to as "music" but in reality is merely masturbatory.

Every time he responds to you, no matter what he says, reply with "Please, you have no clue about what music is, all you know is how to jerk off on a guitar, now leave me alone and go jerk off on your guitar somewhere else because your opinion means less to me than the farts of my ass."

Basically what you want to do is make them mad enough to leave you alone, and never engage them in an on-going argument. Use them as the whipping boy they're trying to use you for, and always reply with the same copy/pasted reply, never adding anything or taking anything away (otherwise they'll feel they've got you on the hook).

**GryphonGuitar** · 12-20-2007, 09:02 AM

Thanks for all the support and replies guys.

What I've done is email the letter to YouTube's service, block the user from my Hotmail and YouTube addresses, and hopefully that's the end of that. I realize that getting into an argument with idiots only means that they will pull You down to their level and beat You with years of experience.

I realize that putting up one's videos to public display can be precarious because literally every flavor of human being has access to the Internet - and emails criticizing my playing style I can easily deal with - they spur me to look at my playing in ways I hadn't and evolve, and develop. It's when things get real ugly and personal that I sadly lose a little faith in the human race, and also become a little afraid - there's all kinds of people out there. Sadly, this will be but the first time for me. Perhaps next time I will be more prepared.

Thank You for Your appreciation and for taking the time!

**Cygnus X1** · 12-20-2007, 10:01 AM

Originally posted by Newc View Post

Basically what you want to do is make them mad enough to leave you alone, and never engage them in an on-going argument. Use them as the whipping boy they're trying to use you for, and always reply with the same copy/pasted reply, never adding anything or taking anything away (otherwise they'll feel they've got you on the hook).

I was thinking about sending you a "Hate PM", Newc,I guess I won't now.

Seriously, I'd do the IGNORE option. For every positive accomplishment I've had, there's always someone there sticking an arrow in my back. Fuggem, and hope they get over it.

**Infernal Death** · 12-20-2007, 10:10 AM

The absolute best thing you can do is totally ignoring this idiot. If he doesn't get any response it will soon get boring for him. If you play his little game he will be encouraged to continue.

Flo

**Stinkbug** · 12-20-2007, 10:39 AM

I am in the ignore crowd. It seems that only a warped individual would take so much time to try and bring down a stranger. Any response would be a waste of your time. It is unlikely anything you say or do will generate a positive reaction from such an individual anway.

At least you are doing something that is great enough to generate a reaction from people. Good or bad and least you are stirring the pot!

In High School I remember a kid (a former friend) wrote on his shoe that he hated me and he hated Slayer. I found that to be somewhat of a compliment because he took the time to deface his shoe and that I ranked up there with Slayer on his hate list.

Not to sound like a warm and fuzzy weenie, but it is interesting to see how much damage negativity can have on a person dispite all the positive comments you have had...something to think about when dealing with people I guess...

**SouthPlatteDemon** · 12-20-2007, 01:36 PM

I would have Shobet or Horns write the reply to them. It will be funny as hell and XXX for sure!

**Shawn Lutz** · 12-20-2007, 02:13 PM

I would reply back being polite and nice. Say something to the effect of "thanks for writing, all opinions are welcomed, the good the bad and the ugly. Music is very subjective, opinions are like assholes and everyone has one, so thanks for sharing your opinion."

**skorb** · 12-20-2007, 04:08 PM

just Man Up, forget it and move on.

frankly it's kinda creepy that you are worried so much about one negative letter from some dope you don't even know.

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