Who would you "cry your heart out" for?

[Bengal]

Jimmy,
Yours was the last in a long line of posts saying the same thing you did. A bunch of chest beating gorillas saying they would never cry for a celebrity. Like they are not worth your tears. That line has run through this thread from the beginning...

All I'm saying is it doesn't make you a pussy if you do. Does it? I don't think so. I shed some tears for Dime. I shed some tears for Freddie Murcury. I shed some tears for Alfred Hitchcock. I shed some tears for Stanley Kubrick. So there are 4 celebs that I shed tears for. I guess by some peoples definition I'm a huge pussy because those guys don't deserve my tears...

As for never connecting with a musician or actors work? Well, I guess I feel sorry for you then. You're missing out on a great connection. Too bad...

As for the killing puppies comment. I'm sure some here would rather say, "I drowned a bag of labrador puppies last night" instead of saying they cried when a celebrity died...

[toejam]

Come on guys. No one is saying you like to kill puppies if you were sad if someone famous died.

That's a bad thing?

[Bengal]

Joe,
Well, killing puppies for Satan is a totally different thing...

[Top Jimmy B]

You know Bengal, this is a difficult topic for me and one I probably shouldn't have waded in on. Grief is a physical response just as much as it is an emotional one for me. Suffering profound loss for people whom I have loved my entire life has impacted my ability to equate those emotions/reactions to others. Again, I am not chest beating or calling anyone a pussy. I would love to have that physical response available to me when EVH, Hetfield, Clint Eastwood, or Gordie Howe dies, but I know that because of how I react to those situations it is not going to happen. I lost my cousin just before Christmas(someone I had been close to my entire life - best friend close) and as sad as I was, tears were not available to me.

I was sad when Dime was killed just as I was really upset when Brad Delp killed himself. I also know we can grieve without crying. The physical response is available to some and just not there for others. For me, machismo does not play into it at all.

The original question was, "who would you cry your heart out for?". The honest answer is that there are very few left for me. I think you're missing that last part - for me. I envy your ability to emote in that way; I am sure it is cathartic.

Jimmy,
Yours was the last in a long line of posts saying the same thing you did. A bunch of chest beating gorillas saying they would never cry for a celebrity. Like they are not worth your tears. That line has run through this thread from the beginning...

All I'm saying is it doesn't make you a pussy if you do. Does it? I don't think so. I shed some tears for Dime. I shed some tears for Freddie Murcury. I shed some tears for Alfred Hitchcock. I shed some tears for Stanley Kubrick. So there are 4 celebs that I shed tears for. I guess by some peoples definition I'm a huge pussy because those guys don't deserve my tears...

As for never connecting with a musician or actors work? Well, I guess I feel sorry for you then. You're missing out on a great connection. Too bad...

As for the killing puppies comment. I'm sure some here would rather say, "I drowned a bag of labrador puppies last night" instead of saying they cried when a celebrity died...

[Bengal]

Jimmy,
I do see what you are saying. I'm sorry if I lumped you in with the others who may, or may not, fit in the box I described...

Don't envy me. I have a hard time with it myself. See, I'm a very emotional guy. Hell, I can cry at a sappy commercial. Really. No joke. I can tear up when happy or sad. Or when something hits me just right. I fought that for my entire life. See I always thought a man should be a "chest thumping gorilla" and never, ever shed a tear. So I fought myself on that my whole life. I did think I was a pussy for tearing up at a movie or whatever. I got so worried that I quit going to movies in theaters because I didn't want to have to hide my emotions...

But now that I'm older (39) I realize that it's not going to change. This is who I am. And while I'm not really comfortable with it totally, I understand it and accept it...

So my post was really more for me than anyone else. To acknowledge that it's the way I am. And try to be cool with it...

[toejam]

Joe,
Well, killing puppies for Satan is a totally different thing...

Cool. I don't feel so bad then.

[Rsmacker]

Jimmy,
I do see what you are saying. I'm sorry if I lumped you in with the others who may, or may not, fit in the box I described...

Don't envy me. I have a hard time with it myself. See, I'm a very emotional guy. Hell, I can cry at a sappy commercial. Really. No joke. I can tear up when happy or sad. Or when something hits me just right. I fought that for my entire life. See I always thought a man should be a "chest thumping gorilla" and never, ever shed a tear. So I fought myself on that my whole life. I did think I was a pussy for tearing up at a movie or whatever. I got so worried that I quit going to movies in theaters because I didn't want to have to hide my emotions...

Ooooh, you lucky bastard, I bet the chicks love it! I tried being like that, but was told that when the Fuhrer shoots himself at the end of "Downfall", that's not a bit to cry to, apparently that's a bit to cheer to. Women, I can't figure them out.....

[jonasaberg]

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See, I'm a very emotional guy. Hell, I can cry at a sappy commercial. Really. No joke. I can tear up when happy or sad. Or when something hits me just right. I fought that for my entire life. See I always thought a man should be a "chest thumping gorilla" and never, ever shed a tear. So I fought myself on that my whole life. I did think I was a pussy for tearing up at a movie or whatever. I got so worried that I quit going to movies in theaters because I didn't want to have to hide my emotions...

Which is why you should ONLY watch pornos.

[atomic charvel guy]

The only celebrity/musician/guitarist I ever have cried for was Jeff Buckley.


I'm sure I will shed a tear when Jeff Beck goes.

You've got the exact feelings in my gut dude. Have you listened to Jeff's (Bukcley) dad play? I read an old, old, magazine from '68 or '69 and the writer said that Jeff's Dad was considered the best over all the other pop type bands that were starting to develop. He had him ranked number 1 , over Elton John, Richie Havens, and a bunch more.. I have a great Jeff Buckley book called "Dream Brother" named after one of the tunes from that crushing first and only album. You wanna borrow it, just ask and i'll send it. I've got "There and Back" on right now, my favorite beck album.

[atomic charvel guy]

Until you experience true loss, be it close to you as in a relative, close friend, or someone who's influenced you, you haven't fully lived yet man.

[blindmuddy]

I'm kinda numb to stuff like that. Unless I know someone well it really doesn't hit me. Probably due to the fact that several of my really close friends died when I was a teenager.

[atomic charvel guy]

i've been losing friends and relatives since 8 years old, been to too many funerals, it really gets depressing even if the ceremony was done well as the deceased was given a great tribute in the end, it all hits you on that plane flight later.

[SpeedMetalSymphony]

Jason Becker..... Nuff said. I would just shut down. He is such an optomist and his music is so awesome!

[Ripley7t]

I cried when Spock and Kirk died. Does that count?

[markD]

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