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First and foremost thank you guys. I've had a crappy day and that was cool to see...
I've been sitting back today watching a few people rip on me and call me names on another board. That's something I see quite often but I refuse to do here so i guess it gets under my skin. One member in general seems to feel that it's a double standard for the admins to remove the gay marriage post, ban someone and then come out with my story. So I just want to make a few points.
When the gay marriage thread was removed it was because it had turned into a hateful thread, 1 particular member using epithets to make their point and it was causing a lot of BS. When I decided to post my initial story it was actually posted in the paid area which is largely unmoderated under a post started by another member.
The reasoning I had for telling my story was to show things on the board that when we post threads on the board we never know or take into consideration who we may be talking too or who exactly may be reading. It's easy to make hurtful statements from behind a keyboard.
In all honesty I sat on my hands for the last 3 months trying to decide if I should just disappear or allow people here to know my story because I have a lot of friends here. At no time was my intent to place myself above the post that was removed. Once I decided to post my story I made th offer to step down and even said I'd let the members here vote if they so wished.. I'd abide by it.
Once the news broke in there I sat and thought about how that news would leech out into the forums now that it had been made public, so I decided to share it in this thread. My reasoning was simple .. I'd rather tell the truth on my own and let the chips fall where they may than to have people speculate what the truth may be.
It's not easy to come out with something that you know will be used against you as being done as I write this. I have made it a point over the years to never drag people through the mud publicly whatever my personal feelings may be, yet my name time and time again gets exactly that. I am never afforded by these people the same respect I give them.
These same people claim that they aren't allowed to speak out against me here because they would be banned and the post moved. This is another issue that couldn't be further from the truth. This is a feeble attempt to justify calling me names elsewhere.
While I allow anyone their own personal opinion I do ask one thing, you disagree respectfully and not with hostility. I am of the firm belief that you get more bees with honey...
Lastly my intent was never to make people feel uncomfortable and if my personal struggle is so discomforting that the JCF starts losing members then I will take the bullet and leave. I've will have walked away with the personal gift that a lot of the members here have given me in the past few weeks, the realization that there are open minded non-judgmental people out there....
In the last 24 hours I've had my sexuality questioned, my moral values, been called nasty things and my use of the JCF questioned. It's done a number on me emotionally today.
In closing I will reiterate exactly what I stated when I first posted this thread. If the members this board are uncomfortable, think I'm immoral, unfit or whatever and they feel the best interest is for me to step down please get your vote going and I'll abide by it.
Sorry for the post but I honestly felt in needed to be said ...
I've been sitting back today watching a few people rip on me and call me names on another board. That's something I see quite often but I refuse to do here so i guess it gets under my skin. One member in general seems to feel that it's a double standard for the admins to remove the gay marriage post, ban someone and then come out with my story. So I just want to make a few points.
When the gay marriage thread was removed it was because it had turned into a hateful thread, 1 particular member using epithets to make their point and it was causing a lot of BS. When I decided to post my initial story it was actually posted in the paid area which is largely unmoderated under a post started by another member.
The reasoning I had for telling my story was to show things on the board that when we post threads on the board we never know or take into consideration who we may be talking too or who exactly may be reading. It's easy to make hurtful statements from behind a keyboard.
In all honesty I sat on my hands for the last 3 months trying to decide if I should just disappear or allow people here to know my story because I have a lot of friends here. At no time was my intent to place myself above the post that was removed. Once I decided to post my story I made th offer to step down and even said I'd let the members here vote if they so wished.. I'd abide by it.
Once the news broke in there I sat and thought about how that news would leech out into the forums now that it had been made public, so I decided to share it in this thread. My reasoning was simple .. I'd rather tell the truth on my own and let the chips fall where they may than to have people speculate what the truth may be.
It's not easy to come out with something that you know will be used against you as being done as I write this. I have made it a point over the years to never drag people through the mud publicly whatever my personal feelings may be, yet my name time and time again gets exactly that. I am never afforded by these people the same respect I give them.
These same people claim that they aren't allowed to speak out against me here because they would be banned and the post moved. This is another issue that couldn't be further from the truth. This is a feeble attempt to justify calling me names elsewhere.
While I allow anyone their own personal opinion I do ask one thing, you disagree respectfully and not with hostility. I am of the firm belief that you get more bees with honey...
Lastly my intent was never to make people feel uncomfortable and if my personal struggle is so discomforting that the JCF starts losing members then I will take the bullet and leave. I've will have walked away with the personal gift that a lot of the members here have given me in the past few weeks, the realization that there are open minded non-judgmental people out there....
In the last 24 hours I've had my sexuality questioned, my moral values, been called nasty things and my use of the JCF questioned. It's done a number on me emotionally today.
In closing I will reiterate exactly what I stated when I first posted this thread. If the members this board are uncomfortable, think I'm immoral, unfit or whatever and they feel the best interest is for me to step down please get your vote going and I'll abide by it.
Sorry for the post but I honestly felt in needed to be said ...
I've been a member there for over a year, but haven't posted until recently. I logged in and noticed fett sent me a nice PM a month ago, so I replied back. Then he posted a "Hi Toejam" thread, just to welcome me there, and now Chuck and Sam won't get off my jock. I feel no need to respond to them any more since they won't believe anything I say. Whatever.
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