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    So I haven't been around much lately. Finally had a bit of time tonight, so I figured I'd spill it.

    I probably won't be around much for the next couple of months, either. My wife and I are separating. Selling the house, divvying up the stuff, etc. It's been amicable, but it's really shitty. I don't want any of this to go down, but she wants out. We've done marriage counselling, tried working it out, but it ain't happening. I worked my ass off to make things work, but it appears it's all in vain. It's making me mental, coz we're still living in the house and sleeping in the same bed! I love her like crazy, but it seems she lost those feeling for me over the last few months. No, there's no cheating going on. To put it bluntly, I am living in constant heartbreak at the moment, and am always around her. Check the lyrics for Love Will Keep Us Alive on the new Scorpions album. That's how it feels. Cheesy as all that sounds.
    My kids are gonna be really upset. We haven't told them yet. Once the house is up for sale next week and the sign is on the front lawn, it's time to tell them. This will be the hardest thing I will have ever had to do, and I don't want to do this to them. The kids will live with her, as I work retarded shift work, and they will come to my house on my days off, or whenever I feel like taking them out. Once I'm off shiftwork (in the next 2 years hopefully), then it will be 1 week at my house, 1 weeks at hers, etc.
    So we are drafting up our separation agreement this week, and we're keeping it civil. Nobody's trying to take the others money or stuff, or keep the kids from each other. There's no hostility. Plus I'm being realy careful to cover my ass on all fronts. We've agreed that what's mine is mine, and what's hers is hers. We should make some good coin off this house too. I'm gonna buy a little house with 3 bedrooms and try and stay in the same area. It's nice and Leah's school is great. Don't want to pull her out of school, if we can help it. That would just make things worse.
    Sorry, for getting all emo on you and shit, but I felt like I had to say it. I'm going to look at a place tomorrow and if it's good, I will put in an offer. Wish me luck.


    -Glen
    THIS SPACE FOR RENT

  • #2
    Sorry Glen..did you guys try talking to someone..like a counselor or something. Is the marriage beyond salvagable? If it is..that's too bad..especially with the kids.

    Bill Z
    "Bill, Smoke a Bowl and Crank Van Halen I, Life is better when I do that"
    Donnie Swanstrom 01/25/06..miss ya!

    "Well, your friend would have Bell's Palsy, which is a facial paralysis, not "Balls Pelsy" like we're joking about here." Toejam's attempt at sensitivity.

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    • #3
      So she wants to walk away from a marriage you have had for years with kids cause of differen't feeling she has had for only a couple months ?

      It's like I said, women are born insane.

      Matt

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      • #4
        Sorry to hear that man. Women can really tear you up inside. I hope all goes well for you.. Keep your chin up and it will get better over time...
        H3LL IS HOME!!!

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        • #5
          Ouch... I have been there, done that and don't envy you. Time seems to be the only outlet for relief. Good Luck Bro

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          • #6
            Yeesh..You know what sucks the fuggin' dick about this shit. Soon as this is all said and done..she's going to want to come back!! That happens all the time!! Its happening right now with my bro-in law (my wife's bro) . His wife (25 years) dated some dude from work and found out grass isn't isn't greener and want to come back home!! Home?? they sold their awesome home, and have three beautiful girls. All because he was tired when he came home from work. Her friends were single/divorced/dating ect., and went to musical plays and shit. So this tool from work took her to a fuggin' play. Yeah, he played her..she played my bro in law..and everyone got played..because her friend's blew smoke up her frumpy ass.

            These so called "friends" do that shit to happily married women..because they're fuggin' miserable themselves. Real friends will encourage to work things out and to understand he's just tired from working all day..but Noooo. So what do they do..they get suckered by some fag that told her all the shit her husband used to..just to get that snatch. Soon as he hittin' it..boom, the magic is gone in 5 days...not 25 years!!

            Same fuggin'g story..next couple.

            I told my wife long ago.."Don't think about leaving me, Do me the fuggin' favor and do it, don't let the door hit you in the ass". Women will NEVER leave if they think you're going to throw a fuggin' party as soon as they leave. But they'll leave you in a hearbeat think you'll be miserable.

            Glen..not saying this is your case..but that's the same ol' song and dance I've heard all my life!

            My wife asked me last week. "If we ever broke up..would you fuck a younger girl?"..So I asked.."Well, you wanted to leave me and did..right?"..she goes "ummm..yeah"..I said "Fuck yeah, immediately..are you fuggin' crazy??!!"... "I'd miss you tho..afterwards". She didn't like that!
            "Bill, Smoke a Bowl and Crank Van Halen I, Life is better when I do that"
            Donnie Swanstrom 01/25/06..miss ya!

            "Well, your friend would have Bell's Palsy, which is a facial paralysis, not "Balls Pelsy" like we're joking about here." Toejam's attempt at sensitivity.

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            • #7
              Hey man, you know you always have us to back you up. We're probably better counselors than half of those professional dudes.

              It's too bad how this situation has turned out. Hopefully the kids will be okay. I've seen what happens when kids have to live through an ugly divorce. They are never the same afterward. Do your best to make it as smooth as possible! All you can really do is to try to make the best of things, make sure the kids are okay, and start anew. Soon after, you will start to feel better about things and even if things go in a bad direction, you will still have your loving kids to cheer you on.

              Good luck with that house!
              "Dear Dr. Bill,
              I work with a woman who is about 5 feet tall and weighs close to 450 pounds and has more facial hair than ZZ Top." - Jack The Riffer

              "OK, we can both have Ben..joint custody. I'll have him on the weekends. We could go out in my Cobra and give people the finger..weather permitting of course.." -Bill Z. Bub

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              • #8
                Been in pretty much the exact same position brother. I packed all her crap up (and some that was really mine) and put it in storage for her. Then I took her for an awkward hourlong drive to the airport and saw her to her gate to fly to the other side of the country and move in with her boyfriend she met playing friggin' spades on yahoo.

                Of course she didn't pay for the storage (or any of her other bills) and lost all the stuff, I had to track down the guy who ended up with the contents to get our daughter's ashes back, luckily the only child involved in the whole ordeal. She blew thousands of dollars from a car accident annunity she had before we got married (which I never touched, should've I guess). Then after a couple of months, broke and having been smacked around by the loser she moved in with she wanted to come back. Fat chance.

                But like you we kept the whole thing amicable. Separation agreement and all that. I gave her a month to get her bidness together and we acted like everything was normal. We vowed to stay friends and all that, but I started ignoring her phone calls and emails after I realized all she wanted me for was someone to bitch to about her problems. I would never wish anything bad on her, she just made bad decisions and has to live with them like the rest of us. In the long run I think it would've been better/easier to have a big fight and hate each other than to be "friends". It seems like it made it take muuuuuuuuch longer to deal with emotionally.

                I hope my aimless rambling is of some help to you. At least to give you a little perspective and let you know you're not the only one whose been through it. If your relationship was anything like mine (co-dependent is the term I believe) you're due some "me" time bro.

                As they say, "Women. Can't live with 'em, can't kill 'em... unless you're OJ."
                |My CSG gallery|
                (CSG=AlexL=awesome)

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                • #9
                  Gone through hell with my ex. I feel for you man. Luckily, we did not have any kids, that must make it ten times worse. All I can say is, it gets better. There will be the times you miss her, no matter how bad things were. I went through hell with my wife, still have physical scars from it. As bad as she was, I still miss the good times.
                  Bottom line, it's an adjustment. Being single sucks for a while. You're used to always having someone there with you. With time, it gets better. Being single kicks ass after a while. Complete freedom.
                  Keep your head up man, things will work out. Just don't get too emo and start listening to crappy music
                  EAOS: 28JUN09

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                  • #10
                    You know what, fuggit. ACT like this is a great idea!!!:idea:

                    If this is gonna happen..do it with style and be cool about it. I mean REALLY cool! Even if its not!

                    Let her leave with a new found respect for you and a big dose of dignity for yourself! Girls perceive ANY signs of weakness as pathetic. Remind yourself and her why she dug you in the first fuggin' place!

                    Turn off the Emo..and throw on some Slayer!!!
                    Last edited by horns666; 09-21-2008, 02:03 AM. Reason: Typos..FUGGUMS
                    "Bill, Smoke a Bowl and Crank Van Halen I, Life is better when I do that"
                    Donnie Swanstrom 01/25/06..miss ya!

                    "Well, your friend would have Bell's Palsy, which is a facial paralysis, not "Balls Pelsy" like we're joking about here." Toejam's attempt at sensitivity.

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                    • #11
                      Been through it...sucks ass now but it will get better. Keep civil with each other for the kids sake is my only advice..not that you need it Best of luck mate!

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                      • #12
                        That has to be tough on the emotions, especially if only one side wants out of the relationship. It really sucks that you have children involved...put them first and try to keep as much as a routine for them as you can. Time heals all wounds bro, keep your chin up and move forward with you life.

                        I agree with others..act like oh'well...time for some new and improved strange pootang !
                        shawnlutz.com

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                        • #13
                          Bang her sister.
                          Don't forget the corn. It's nutritious, delicious, and ribbed for her pleasure.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Jack The Riffer View Post
                            Bang her sister.

                            or her best freind!!

                            Best advice here from the bro of bros who knows!!!

                            John rules!!
                            "Bill, Smoke a Bowl and Crank Van Halen I, Life is better when I do that"
                            Donnie Swanstrom 01/25/06..miss ya!

                            "Well, your friend would have Bell's Palsy, which is a facial paralysis, not "Balls Pelsy" like we're joking about here." Toejam's attempt at sensitivity.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Jack The Riffer View Post
                              Bang her sister.
                              Originally posted by horns666 View Post
                              And her best freind!!



                              Fixed !!!!!
                              Enjoying a rum and coke, just didn't have any coke...

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