Not a good time in my life (warning - emo thread!)

[Cuthbert]

I'll never marry.

They'll never take me alive.

[SEEGERMANY]

Dude, people grow apart. As simple as that.

"we're working on the whole growing apart thingy"

[Spivonious]

Dude, people grow apart.

People stop liking each other, they stop finding each other attractive, but if you truly love someone you will always love them no matter what.

I think people get married for the wrong reasons these days.

edit - no offense meant to anyone on this thread. I don't know the specifics. This is all my opinion about love and marriage, and the ridiculously high rate of divorce these days (50%+ last I heard).

[joelayres]

It's like I said, women are born insane.

Matt

Truer words have never been spoken.
I've been down that "amicable" road before - just be sure to completely cover your ass and keep all agreements nice and legal. A good divorce attorney is money well spent to be sure that things are wrapped up tight and you don't get bit in the ass down the road.

The difference between mine and yours is that we had no kids involved.
I understand how bad you feel - I've been there - but believe me it will be worse for the kids.

Best of luck to you.

[horns666]

"we're working on the whole growing apart thingy"

SEE GEE I KNOW that is your dream girl(s)..you sick sumbitch!

I was watchin' them on tv earlier..that's just fuggin' amazing!!

[Jayster]

I think people get married for the wrong reasons these days.
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I couldn't agree more ,IMHO it should be easier to get divorced and much harder to get married.As a side affect - I bet domestic violence would go down.

Glen ,

There's probalbly not anything anyone can say to take the pain away ,I can empathize with your situation.Although I'm still a newbie , I do feel you can look to your friends at the jcf.

-Jay

[Nuclear Vampire]

Thanks for the kind words folks.

Counselling was tried, but failed. The house is now up for sale. The kids are taking it surprisingly well. My daughter is more worried about not seeing her friend across the street. We're being very amicable and actually having "normal" conversations. It's so odd. We're still sleeping in the same bed. I don't know if we'll ever get back together, but thinking about all the "what if" type things will just make it worse for me. Almost married 10 years (Sept 24th, 1998), so it's a real heartbreaker for me every single day I see her.

But I gotta worry about my kids and my future. Been on the house-hunt. A few not-so-bad ones have popped up, but until I sell this joint it's pointless to make an offer. She made one and found a nice place, but if someone puts in a better offer she's shit out of luck.

All I know for certain is she wants to remain best friends, which we were before we got married. Good enough, I guess. That way the kids will still have mom and dad at all the important events like birthdays and such. I'm using some of the $$$ from the sale of this place to build a decent recording rig and finally getting my music shit together. About damn time too!

Anyways, thanks again for all the support. It's nice to know there's some cats out there that will lend an ear to a brother in his time of need.

Glen

[Aaronharmon]

I am 35 and never married either. Some times I think I am missing out and sometimes I don't. The bottom line is I am happy and almost everyone I know who, is, or has been married says don't do it.

I am sorry to hear you're fucked up over this. It will not start to get better until she is out. Her being there is like a constant reminder of what was and cannot be. Try not to get too wrapped up in booze and shitty coping mechanisms. It will get better with time.

[Cleveland Metal]

I told my wife long ago.."Don't think about leaving me, Do me the fuggin' favor and do it, don't let the door hit you in the ass". Women will NEVER leave if they think you're going to throw a fuggin' party as soon as they leave. But they'll leave you in a hearbeat think you'll be miserable.

My wife asked me last week. "If we ever broke up..would you fuck a younger girl?"..So I asked.."Well, you wanted to leave me and did..right?"..she goes "ummm..yeah"..I said "Fuck yeah, immediately..are you fuggin' crazy??!!"... "I'd miss you tho..afterwards". She didn't like that!

You know what, fuggit. ACT like this is a great idea!!!:idea:

If this is gonna happen..do it with style and be cool about it. I mean REALLY cool! Even if its not!

Let her leave with a new found respect for you and a big dose of dignity for yourself! Girls perceive ANY signs of weakness as pathetic. Remind yourself and her why she dug you in the first fuggin' place!

Turn off the Emo..and throw on some Slayer!!!

Been through all this as well. Actually much worse. My wife turned into a crackwhore that drug me through courts for years trying to take my son. I won...

Nonetheless. Bill is right...

Bang her sister.

And I banged my wife's best friend. They still hate each other over that. And 16 years later, I'm still banging her ex-best friend.


Nonetheless, sorry for your pain... And, as Online said, Women ARE born insane...

Like I always say, Ya can't live with em' and ya can't chop em up and bury em'in the yard...

I also say... Fuck the fucking fuckers...

Good luck man, sounds like you have a long tearful road.

[Cleveland Metal]

"we're working on the whole growing apart thingy"

I'd hit it...

[toejam]

People stop liking each other, they stop finding each other attractive, but if you truly love someone you will always love them no matter what.

I hate my ex-wife with a passion and hope she dies.

[drockilles]

I don't wish death on my ex. There are punishments far worse that I'd love her to suffer. The night she almost smashed my KE-1, holy shit. If she had gone through with that, she'd still be tied up like Alex in "A Clockwork Orange" watching me pull an Ed Gein on her family.

[Cleveland Metal]

It's been a great ride watching the special kind of hell my ex-lives in...

Her life is absolutely ruined with 29 felonies (yeah amazing huh? Thank you 1st district Cleveland Police narcotics unit) and now serious health issues from her drug abuse and crazy life... Weird how things work out sometimes.

Touche...

[drockilles]

I hear you John. A matter of time before my ex gets busted for drugs (living in Texas now, where I know they don't fuck around). That and her 4 DUIs in three years assuring she'll be riding a bike for a great deal of her adult life.
Makes me feel warm and fuzzy, knowing how good she could have had it with me, but decided to fuck it up. Just wish I didn't reenlist for another 4 because of her. Ah well, live and learn.

[Jacksons Shred]

I don't wish death on my ex. There are punishments far worse that I'd love her to suffer. The night she almost smashed my KE-1, holy shit. If she had gone through with that, she'd still be tied up like Alex in "A Clockwork Orange" watching me pull an Ed Gein on her family.

Dude, she tried to smash your KE-1?

Fuck that. I wish death upon your ex.