(Un)Happy New Year...

[Ben...]

Well, to say I'm a little angry right now would be a MASSIVE understatement.

It's always nice to know that people you think you can trust and are your friends can lie right to your face and not feel one bit of guilt. I just logged onto Facebook to find a person on my friend's list uploaded a bunch of pictures from a New Years party. Sounds innocent enough except that I asked if the host was having one and he straight out said no. Then when I asked several other people what they were doing they all said nothing about one.

This wouldn't be so bad but a couple of my (not anymore) best friends were some of those people. They never answered any of my messages or anything in regards to New Years. I've really noticed this one person in particular has changed the last couple of months. We used to hang out and whatnot all the time but then they started hanging out with the people who hosted this party (I used to hang out with them) and now this person either puts off doing anything with me or, when we actually make a plan, cancels at the last minute. They've lied to me so many times now I don't know why I even try anymore. It seems like they want to leave their weekends open so that they can hang out with these new "friends".

I'm now considering completely ditching them and starting over again. I hate being back at square one like the start of high school when I didn't know anybody but I'm seriously sick of all this crap. They all act like they're my friends yet they do crap like this and when I confront them they act all innocent and try to suck up to me.

Let's just say that next Monday is going to be fairly interesting...

[MartinBarre]

That really sucks, I can imagine this must feel very humiliating for you mate. And you were having a good new year up to now too.

I know it won't feel like much consolation now, but seriously, once you get a bit older, you'll look back on this and laugh (probably a little maniacally). If these bastards don't want to be your friend, fuck them. Don't even waste your time worrying about them, seriously, friendships come and go, even with REAL friends. People like this will mean nothing to you in ten years, other than a source of inspiration not to take shit from anyone.

You have us here anyway.

Seriously, I understand you must feel really fucking humiliated by these cunts, but the best thing is to just forget them and move on. Quality of friendship is better than quantity - good friends will come around and last a lifetime. These fuckers are nothing, dont forget that.

If it helps, adopt my attitude to life - one of superiority. I believe I'm better than 99% of people I come into contact with, so people who I don't like are less than nothing.
I rock - they suck.
You rock. Believe it. And treat your ex "friends" with contempt, but don't let this get to you.

[nhspike]

That really sucks, I can imagine this must feel very humiliating for you mate. And you were having a good new year up to now too.

I know it won't feel like much consolation now, but seriously, once you get a bit older, you'll look back on this and laugh (probably a little maniacally). If these bastards don't want to be your friend, fuck them. Don't even waste your time worrying about them, seriously, friendships come and go, even with REAL friends. People like this will mean nothing to you in ten years, other than a source of inspiration not to take shit from anyone.

You have us here anyway.

Seriously, I understand you must feel really fucking humiliated by these cunts, but the best thing is to just forget them and move on. Quality of friendship is better than quantity - good friends will come around and last a lifetime. These fuckers are nothing, dont forget that.

+1 Well said!

[dg]

+2

I know it sucks, and it can be tough being your age, especially when immature BS like this goes down. I remember it pretty well. You're a great guy with loads of great times ahead. Don't let these assclowns get you down.

[Ben...]

The thing is I don't really care about most of them. I consider them "acquaintance friends". It's the two that I've been super good friends (Quality) with for the last couple of years that is what really is getting to me. I'm probably gonna give one of them a call tonight; the one who's been really strange lately. I'll see what they have to say. I really would like to continue to be friends with them but I'll see how they react to what I'm gonna say (I'm going to confront them about these new friends. I don't know if they realize how they've been lately. I've been friends with them longer than all of their new friends combined so they may listen to me). The other one, on the other hand, can vanish off the face of the Earth for all I care (They hosted the event). They straight out lied to me on more than one occasion and they don't seem to care.

I'm gonna talk to a friend (He doesn't hang out or like any of these people) and see what he thinks.

Thanks for all the advice so far.

[SEEGERMANY]

Ben,

It's pretty much all been said. You're at the age when friends come and go. But here's a little trick. Under no circumstances should you EVER let them know it bothers you. Just remain happy go lucky and if they come back, great. If they don't, that's great too!

[Jayster]

Yup, youth it sucks. I wished I was 16 again though !

Ben,

Talk to your friends once if it's cool - forget all !
if it's not cool - tell em to fuck off, or perhaps take-off hosers !?!:ROTF:
Now you've got extra time to go and teabag their sisters. After that you can practice more, get hot chicks and grow up a kick ass mofo.

Happy new year all

[Ben...]

Yeah, I think I'm gonna leave it for now and see how it goes. I'm still going to call the one friend because I need to talk to them about something anyways.

I think I'm going to go back to my old group. I only started hanging out with these people because I was friends with one person. I don't care about most of the other people and I have nothing against the people who didn't do anything. I'm going to continue being friends with the one person who I was friends with before any of this crap. I started talking to them at the start of Grade 10 and we've been friends ever since. We work together at school so I can't see not being friends with them not to mention we have all of our classes together so it would be impossible to avoid them.

Hopefully things will turn out for the better.

[AlexL]

I spent a lot of time hanging with two guys in particular through 10th-12th grade; then early on in 12th grade, they TP'd my house, put dog crap in my mailbox, etc. I have no idea why they would do that, and that act pretty much drove a wedge between those two and me and the rest of my friends. They were pretty much ostricized by the rest of us for the rest of the year. It was confusing, but I guess you know who your real friends are when stuff like that happens.

Sorry to say, but high school friends don't really count all that much in the end. I see a few guys I was close with in high school maybe once a year. I had one friend in particular that I hung out with into my early 30s, but he got married, and doesn't really have time for me. I saw that one coming; I didn't really care for his wife-to-be, and even told my wife that she was going to kill my friendship with him. And that's exactly what happened.

I have two sets of friends right now; my neighbors, and my jamming buddies. None of whom I knew before I was in my 30s.

So, don't fret these friendships. I hope it all works out for you, but chances are you won't be in contact with any of these people anyway in 10 years.

- E.

[Newc]

Or you could send the pics from their page to their parents, if there was drinking and such going on that'd get their butts beaten

Recompense 10 times what you've been given, and people will fear you.
If they can't respect you as an equal, let them fear you.

[Ben...]

Or you could send the pics from their page to their parents, if there was drinking and such going on that'd get their butts beaten

Recompense 10 times what you've been given, and people will fear you.
If they can't respect you as an equal, let them fear you.

Unfortunately, none of them drink.

I don't think revenge would be the best idea (The guy who hosted the party tried to pull a prank on me so he's exempt from that statement. I have several ideas.).

[jgcable]

Don't sweat the small stuff. Its tough when your young but it gets easier when you get older. Think of it this way.... the party would have been better if you were there. Their loss.
Just don't let them know it. Your true friends will always remain true. All the rest will come and go.

[wilkinsi]

It's kinda funny: I have more trust in those I meet on internet forums than those I meet in person, whether it be business or friendship.

[ABSOLUT CHARVEL]

Unfortunately, none of them drink..

But you are in Canada? How can this be?

I got news for you... the BS dont end once you get out of high school. You will come across douch all through life. You will learn to spot it easier though

[Ben...]

It's kinda funny: I have more trust in those I meet on internet forums than those I meet in person, whether it be business or friendship.

I agree. What I find is that you get to know their true personality, how they think, what they believe and if they can be trusted. You create an image in your head of how they look and you get to know the real them (most of the time). You don't judge them based on looks or any of that but more on how they act. When there was the "Post a picture of yourself" thread, was anyone really surprised when they saw a picture of someone and couldn't believe they looked that way. Until you see someone, how you know them is completely different than someone you know from your daily life.