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  • #31
    I have the same thing happen to me, except every weekend.

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    • #32
      Originally posted by Ben... View Post


      We've been friends because I was friends with several of his friends but they all moved away so it's just me and him.

      You'll think I'm crazy for this, but it's possible he hung out with you more because you reminded him of the friends that moved away.

      It does sound whacky, I know, but people find various ways to cling to their past. Hanging out with the guy who used to hang out with your best friends is part of that physical connection. Maybe he was ready to sever that physical connection but couldn't put it inot words because he wasn't consciously thinking of you as that physical link to the past.
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      • #33
        Originally posted by Newc View Post
        You'll think I'm crazy for this, but it's possible he hung out with you more because you reminded him of the friends that moved away.

        It does sound whacky, I know, but people find various ways to cling to their past. Hanging out with the guy who used to hang out with your best friends is part of that physical connection. Maybe he was ready to sever that physical connection but couldn't put it inot words because he wasn't consciously thinking of you as that physical link to the past.
        That sounds about right. I really think he misses the one friend because they were best friends since the start of elementary school. They still talk to each other every day because they often play on Xbox Live together. The guy he talks to is a really nice guy that I was really good friends with too. The other guy who moved away we don't really know anymore so we don't talk to him. He changed a ton and not for the better. I'm the last person out of the group that's still around.
        "Dear Dr. Bill,
        I work with a woman who is about 5 feet tall and weighs close to 450 pounds and has more facial hair than ZZ Top." - Jack The Riffer

        "OK, we can both have Ben..joint custody. I'll have him on the weekends. We could go out in my Cobra and give people the finger..weather permitting of course.." -Bill Z. Bub

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        • #34
          Originally posted by MetalHeadMat View Post
          I have the same thing happen to me, except every weekend.

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          • #35
            Echoing what has been said already- You will be amazed at just how little contact you have with high school friends pretty shortly after your senior year. I don't know if you plan on going to college, but as soon as I did we all just grew apart.

            Now that I'm quite a few years out of college, I have exactly 4 friends that I consider "friends". In highschool I thought I had probably 100.

            I am much better off now than I was then. These guys would take a bullet for me, and vice versa.

            You will see as the years go by "friends" will fall away, and the friends you end up keeping will be so very very different from the "friends" that you had in high school that using the term to refer to those "old" friends will almost seem like an insult to what friendship really is.

            Are they friends or drinking/party buddies? Are they friends or part of your "crew" that you roll with to go out and have a few beers? I know they feel at times like the same thing, but they ain't.

            Now, my wife has friends from highschool that she's kept, and that's just how it worked out for her..... we're 16 years out of highschool now and these ladies are the "real deal".... That's how it worked out for her. Not for me. Either way, you're going to be fine.

            Vass

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