This is gonna be a bit long but I wanna give as much info as possible...
Alright, Im having a hard time dealing with some stuff... Im at the point where I cant tell if Im the one being unreasonable or not and I could really use some help, because its taking its toll on me.
To give a quick rundown, I joined the band in early Jan. The drummer was also doubling as the manager, as he was the one that started the band.
We decided to do some recordings, and it was taking alot longer than the drummer liked and he really started pushing us. The original guitarist was really struggling so they decided to let him go. Meanwhile all the recording was being done at my place, so after he left, it all fell on me. The constand nagging really bothered me... Ive got a full time job and a family at home, so yeah, I couldnt dedicate all my time to it... I figured he would realize this considering he had 4 kids of his own living at home but anyway.
Some shit started stirring in the band, the drummer getting on our singer constantly, our bassist couldnt keep up, it seemed like I was the only voice of reason for the longest time, and I was fine with that as thats usually how I am to begin with. Then finally my friend who I grew up with decideds to join as our 2nd guitarist, and another friend of mine offeres to take over management position... this should eleviate some of the inter-band stress, right?
Nope. We have had band meeting after band meeting, issue after issue, non-stop drama regarding anything and everything.
We decided to go into a real studio, and we do... lay the drums, guitars (sans solos) and vocals down... the vocals didnt come out well, and our singer was being flaky at the time, so everyone was calling to fire him but me... again, I was the level headed one. The animosity continued in the band. Obvously money and time being an issue, our studio recordings are taking a while... my solos werent ready, singer didnt have money for studio... then of all people, the drummer turns on ME! The one person he could ALWAYS turn to. We finally go into the studio last thursday and I lay down my solo on one song and singer finishes up vocals. All seems well.
Then tonight I find out through fucking facebook none the less, that theyve decided on a name for our EP. WTF? There are so many other things that I just dont feel like typing out... so much shit going on behind backs, decisions being made without everyone in the band being notified... Im just having a real hard time dealing with it and honestly, Im feeling betrayed. Ive got enough stress in daily life, the band is supposed to be fun and a release for me, not the source of 90% of my stress. After all these issues, I really have a feeling that things wont be the same, now that Ive patched things up between the singer and drummer, theyre all buddy buddy again, and now theres 2 sides to the band, yet again.
What it comes down to is, the drummer still thinks this is HIS band, and other band members are feeding that by constantly going to him, not to our management. I know alot of you have been in bands before, what do you HONESTLY think of the situation? The band definitley has potential and I really dont want to miss an opportunity, but at the same time, is it worth putting myself through this? This is my 2nd band, first one I left because of creative differences... you know the story on this one. Is this how shit goes on in most all bands? If so, I think Im about to hang it up.
Alright, Im having a hard time dealing with some stuff... Im at the point where I cant tell if Im the one being unreasonable or not and I could really use some help, because its taking its toll on me.
To give a quick rundown, I joined the band in early Jan. The drummer was also doubling as the manager, as he was the one that started the band.
We decided to do some recordings, and it was taking alot longer than the drummer liked and he really started pushing us. The original guitarist was really struggling so they decided to let him go. Meanwhile all the recording was being done at my place, so after he left, it all fell on me. The constand nagging really bothered me... Ive got a full time job and a family at home, so yeah, I couldnt dedicate all my time to it... I figured he would realize this considering he had 4 kids of his own living at home but anyway.
Some shit started stirring in the band, the drummer getting on our singer constantly, our bassist couldnt keep up, it seemed like I was the only voice of reason for the longest time, and I was fine with that as thats usually how I am to begin with. Then finally my friend who I grew up with decideds to join as our 2nd guitarist, and another friend of mine offeres to take over management position... this should eleviate some of the inter-band stress, right?
Nope. We have had band meeting after band meeting, issue after issue, non-stop drama regarding anything and everything.
We decided to go into a real studio, and we do... lay the drums, guitars (sans solos) and vocals down... the vocals didnt come out well, and our singer was being flaky at the time, so everyone was calling to fire him but me... again, I was the level headed one. The animosity continued in the band. Obvously money and time being an issue, our studio recordings are taking a while... my solos werent ready, singer didnt have money for studio... then of all people, the drummer turns on ME! The one person he could ALWAYS turn to. We finally go into the studio last thursday and I lay down my solo on one song and singer finishes up vocals. All seems well.
Then tonight I find out through fucking facebook none the less, that theyve decided on a name for our EP. WTF? There are so many other things that I just dont feel like typing out... so much shit going on behind backs, decisions being made without everyone in the band being notified... Im just having a real hard time dealing with it and honestly, Im feeling betrayed. Ive got enough stress in daily life, the band is supposed to be fun and a release for me, not the source of 90% of my stress. After all these issues, I really have a feeling that things wont be the same, now that Ive patched things up between the singer and drummer, theyre all buddy buddy again, and now theres 2 sides to the band, yet again.
What it comes down to is, the drummer still thinks this is HIS band, and other band members are feeding that by constantly going to him, not to our management. I know alot of you have been in bands before, what do you HONESTLY think of the situation? The band definitley has potential and I really dont want to miss an opportunity, but at the same time, is it worth putting myself through this? This is my 2nd band, first one I left because of creative differences... you know the story on this one. Is this how shit goes on in most all bands? If so, I think Im about to hang it up.
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